It was okay to be a "sensitive guy," but it was understood that even sensitive guys had to toe the line, toughen up, and bite the bullet when it came to certain "male" things like sports, work, etc.
I accepted that being a "sensitive guy" was always going to be a part of me. But I also genuinely aspired to be able to hold my own in the "male" things. And changing into T mode for business negotiations was no different from putting on one's suit and tie before going to a business meeting.
I agree. There is definitely pressure on Thinkers to be more "emotionally intelligent" in the workplace nowadays, especially in leadership positions. These days, leadership training in the corporate world includes training on sensitizing oneself to the emotional needs of workforce.AH, on second thought, I won't. I expect to enter a career when such things are not yet so expected.. but just wait, they will be. I recommend to read Daniel Goleman's book, The Emotionally Intelligent Workplace (2001) to see why
Being somewhat ambidextrous in that way, I always excel in workplace leadership classes. It's fun to see the hard-charging INTJs stumbling about and trying to puzzle out how they are supposed to handle some emotional/ethical nightmare problem.