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    Default NTP - Control freak, but lover of chaos

    What the duck is up with this? After doing some research with some wicked NTPs, it seems this is common, so I'd like your experiences/perspectives.

    How do you see the spectrum? The relationship between living with chaos or where you have control over everything? Can this happen simultaneously? It is more fluid for you?

    Are you ever "happy" on either side/with any combination?

    I am using control freak, because I know at least for entps, we must be in control, although we are best in chaotic situations. But when things in my life are too ordered and controlled, even by myself, I feel constrained and tame. Like I've lost my edge, lost my "me". When life is too chaotic, I feel too "detached" and that's no good either.

    Is balance the answer? And if so, how can it be found?

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    The only time I feel like a control freak is when someone is trying to mess my personal area/space/method/thought.

    If there is no violation, let the chaos rule.

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    I didn't really mean over others, I don't like being on control of others, or others being in control of me. I like having a measure of influence, but having control leaves me with too much responsibility, and, well, gross.

    I meant more control over my own life, my own self, what I'm involved in.
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    I think there are a few things that keep me anchored. I can live my life in total disarray as long as there are a few constants(one might call it control freakish). Otherwise I'd be pretty mixed up ENFP.

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    Quote Originally Posted by avolkiteshvara View Post
    I think there are a few things that keep me anchored. I can live my life in total disarray as long as there are a few constants(one might call it control freakish). Otherwise I'd be pretty mixed up ENFP.
    How/Where do you draw the line?
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    Everything that makes me feel something I like to control for MYself. The rest is defiend by hope, luck and rock n'roll
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    As long as it doesn't effect me physically or mentaly in a negative way, chaos is a welcome change to a otherwise boring life.

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    I don't like having everything planned out for me. I do deviate more towards the chaos than the everyday, boring routine. Choosing chaos is, in a way, me controlling my environment. I make the decision to take life as it comes at me rather than choosing to look at every detail and work towards a certain end. I hate when people try to tell me what to do or offer unsolicited advice. Of course, I'm more than happy to accept advice that I ask for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RuffledINTP View Post
    Choosing chaos is, in a way, me controlling my environment.
    Exactly.

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    what do you mean by chaos. as to a mess that people can see or chaos in your head.

    If chaos in your head, learn to let go and clear your mind. Any more control does nto work.
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