I love feelers but only the introverted ones as the extroverted ones cant understand me and try to get deeper past my deep I. Also sensing feelers cant fully grasp me and my intuition.
Originally Posted by Orangey
Incidentally, I believe that I am a dominant Ti user, and I often have trouble explaining things that I understand well. It's a matter of organizing the presentation of material. I can have it perfectly organized in my head all at once, but structuring the sequential delivery of material so that others understand is a different matter entirely, and requires a different skill set that I am apparently lacking.
"How dreadful!" cried Lord Henry. "I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It is hitting below the intellect." ~ Oscar Wilde - The picture of Dorian Gray
I can't speak for all feelers, but for my friends who are feelers - which I'm pretty sure accounts for most of them - I love em! The way they are more prone to freely express their feelings is a refreshing and contagious trait. I think they're cute with their idealistic behavior in contrast to my realistic type. They can be a bit irrational at times, but I like being able to help them rationalize whatever it is they're talking about, which can lead to some interesting conversations that I don't normally think about - as long as they're open enough to hear what I have to say (I've definitely had some conversations like the one Orangey posted. Not fun. T_T). I've also noticed that my feeler friends tend to have the best reactions to the horrible things I say, which are always really amusing (although I feel I can only do this to those who know me well enough to not take offense). I like the fact that they always want to listen and sympathize with you whenever your own feelings come out, though they sometimes are not always the best choices to vent to when I'm looking for logical help and advice. Whenever I come to them with an issue that's bothering me, I think the fact that I do not often open my feelings makes them go, "Holy crap, her feelings are coming out?! Whoever made her actually upset enough to come to me must be such a horrible person!" So instead of helping me to rationalize and understand the big picture in order to figure out what my next steps should be, they usually decide that my emotional state must be at the brink of destruction, and they instead shower me with sympathy and words that ooze with love and optimism. But they're comforting to be around, they do help me to be optimistic, and are good at giving boosts. And they're really good at giving hugs. I sometimes like to mess with their heads and pretend to be hurt by their occasional witty comments. The result their being surprised, scared, and they don't hesitate to give me big hugs and take pity on me. I then make sexual innuendos while they're hugging me, which gets lovely reactions on their part. Heeheehee...
In general I love feelers. Most of my romantic relationships have been with feelers for a reason. They tend to be friendly and warm, and easy to get along with as long as they're not insecure. They also give a different perspective on certain things, which is always interesting to find out and can be useful. I like how the ones I'm close to are genuinely interested in how I'm feeling about something. Although I might not always be willing to share it, it is appreciated that someone else is thinking about me. And the way they react to some things is really sweet. My fiance got to watch the birth of his baby niece, and he admitted that he began to tear up. I find that so cute.
However, what really bothers me about some of them is their inability to be objective. I got into a nasty fight with one because he couldn't come up with an objective decision, and I still think it was one of the worst possible decisions he could make for all parties involved because he let his feelings get in the way of his thinking.
And I do wish they would grow thicker skins sometimes. Sometimes they get in heated debates and end up all butt-hurt afterward. And they're also one of the first ones to call me cold. I had a friend (an ESFJ I suspect) that accused me of not caring about her and not caring about our friendship. Yeah, I spent nearly every weekend with her, attended all her get togethers and parties, helped her with moving and cleaning and cooking, and listened to her talk about her personal problems because I couldn't care less about her.
But I think things like that can happen with anyone of any type. In the end we're all just people.
They help me hone the presentation of my arguments, relying on how it sounds instead of what I'm saying (not entirely, but it's stronger). I'm happy that they exist, and it's incredibly easy to relax around feelers in comparison to thinkers, but I really don't like that they make up more of the population. It's frustrating.