I actually really like feelers. Like 90% of my friends are feely types. I love being able to sink into a pillow full of hugs for a few minutes each day. But just for a few minutes. And it doesn't mean I'm upset about anything. No, I don't need to talk, but thanks. No really, I'm ok, but thanks.
I love you guys. And I love the way you bring different perspectives to the table and always make me laugh (esp my crazy fun enfps).
I don't like being made to feel like I'm less of a human because I don't cry all the time. I'm very sick of people behaving as if I don't have feelings just because I don't express them publicly. Just because I don't tell you, doesn't mean I'm in avoidance - I just don't want to share it with you. But for the most part, I am truly not affected by the multitude of things that you are. I will not cry watching The Notebook, and I am not sorry, so please back off - thanks.
I don't like people trying to make more of a situation than what it is, by adding all this emotional color to it. Reading subtext where there is none.
I don't like hearing these silly, hokey sounding words: connection, soul, spiritual, journey
on the flip side:
I like the joy they get in the simple pleasures in life - a hug, a phone call, a flower.
I like the way they dress themselves with flair.
I like how they truly believe in soul connections and spiritual journeys.
You are amazing. Everything you say is so true.
INtP...RCUEI primary I...5w4...INTp... ILI...The Artist Formerly Known As Car!ssa
In general I tend to dislike them, basing ones decisions of emotions rather than thought and logic seems silly to me and I believe it can sometimes lead to dire consequences.
Our emotions did not evolve for the modern world.
I generally have nothing against them. Most of them are entertaining enough, and my feeler friends (not as creepy as it sounds) are really great people. However, there is two things about some of them that bug the crap out of me:
(i) the moral high ground some of them get on when they realize my values are less clearly defined than theirs are (or that I don't cry when I watch Bambi)
(ii) the ones that take my pointless argumentative banter personally and think I consider them to be well beneath me and thus treat me like I'm an arrogant prick
"How dreadful!" cried Lord Henry. "I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It is hitting below the intellect." ~ Oscar Wilde - The picture of Dorian Gray
I think that most self-identified NTs have a neurotic fixation with the rationality ascribed to them by the MBTI profile. This is despite the fact that this forum is chock full of some incoherent smack.
But, as long as I'm here, I'm going to point out that the NFs are back in their private forum dragging their collective messiah complex out yet again. This is so very like them. "Oh boo hoo!" they write, "we are so good at flying into hysterics and we excel at munificent displays of gratuitous sentimentality, but the NTs aren't! Oh how I pity them!"
Aleph-One, you look like the kind of person who would spend his spare time building a giant robot to hold the government for ransom. -Some Guy on the Internet
I have a number of friends that are feelers -- probably the majority of them. I find they give me a perspective I sometimes lack -- and are just usually pleasant to be around. The only complaint I have is that they tend to assume that because my emotions are not usually visible that they do not exist.
Just yesterday, I was talking to my closest male friend (INFJ). He was asking about my boyfriend. I told him that things were not going well lately and that I was a bit hurt by his (the boyfriend's) recent actions. Somewhere in the conversation, I told my friend that I had teared up earlier in the evening while I was sorting it all out in my mind.
My friend was incredulous. "YOU cried?" As if I am some kind of alien without normal human responses.
"Wow, I didn't realize you really liked him that much." No, I just spend every weekend and occasional weekday evenings with him, talk to him on the phone every day, and have been physically intimate with him, but I don't really like him that much.
Thinkers do actually feel. Honest. Sometimes intensely. We just don't always allow our emotions to impede our decision making. Unfortunately, many feelers do not seem to get that.