[MBTI General] Cuddling after Sex

[CindySue]

Do rational men like to cuddle after sex? I am a strong feeler and like to be close to my partner as much as possible including after sex. I have read some posts about men disliking physical touch. When is cuddling ok if ever?

 

[Magic Poriferan]

Sounds good to me.

I think you'll find this varies a lot within type, rather than between type.

EDIT: For reference, if I'm romantically interested in someone, I'm usually going to be open to physical affection with them. But don't touch me while I'm brain-storming, operating a machine or device of some sort, or wielding a knife.

 

[Valiant]

Seriously... This is the most adorable INFP post I have seen on here for a good while

To answer your question: eNtj guy here, cuddling is very much fine most of time. Too much is better than too little.
It is not fine when i'm doing something important, which is not the case after sex.
I've had the experience of dating an INFP, and it was a little annoying at times... But ultimately very endearing The hugging isn't an issue, I think... Just make sure that you give your NT a little space to pursue brainy stuff on his own. Also, if you want lots of plus points, try learning about his nerd subject, and talk about it.

Sorry for the extra (and probably worthless) advice Just triggered quite a few memories.

 

[CindySue]

Glad you liked it

Whew. That is good news. I don't think I could take it otherwise. Thanks for the extra advice. I enjoyed it and will use it!

 

[ceecee]

Do rational men like to cuddle after sex? I am a strong feeler and like to be close to my partner as much as possible including after sex. I have read some posts about men disliking physical touch. When is cuddling ok if ever?

Mine likes to cuddle but he's an NF. He likes it more than I do. We cuddle in bed and after sex (for a little while. I need space to sleep.). He's never tried cuddling me when I'm watching a hockey game or trying to cook dinner (although he does come up behind me and kiss my neck). I don't dislike physical touching at all but a clingy person would drive me nuts, as I'm sure it would all kinds of people.

 

[Fluffywolf]

I like cuddling a lot, with the person I love that is. But only with that person.

 

[Verfremdungseffekt]

If I'm concentrating on something, I am very easily spooked. A couple times I was working, or otherwise focused, and my then-partner sneaked up and touched me, and I jumped and half-screamed. I've also been awakened a few times this way, to similar effect.

But in terms of signs of affection, when I'm actually prepared for it -- this is about the ultimate, so far as I'm concerned. I'm not all that up on sex itself, but if I'm attached to someone, I could lounge around and entwine myself with her for days on end.

It's times like this that a butler would come in handy. Food on call!

 

[Sarcasticus]

I'm very touchy-feely for an INTP so cuddling is great. With my SO, that is. With others I can be physically demonstrative and I don't mind being touched by others in conversation, but I don't go out out my way to do so.

 

[entropie]

I tend to fall asleep and snort after sex, so you are free to do what you want xD

 

[Laurie]

You snort?

 

[matmos]

I tend to fall asleep and snort after sex, so you are free to do what you want xD

Entropie, you really are a barbarian.

I snort before & during sex. Afterwards, I light up a cigarette.

 

[entropie]

 

[jenocyde]

I like cuddling a lot, with the person I love that is. But only with that person.

+1

(but I'm not a male, so this probably isn't relevant to the OP question)

 

[entropie]

lol, for sure

 

[Thursday]

I like to cuddle and make tacit eye-contact and uh-huhs with giggles

 

[MacGuffin]

Sure, why not?

 

[jenocyde]

There are different types of cuddling too. If a man engulfs me in his big strong arms it's different than if he's clinging on for dear life.

I've noticed, also, that I will let a man hold me and it won't necessarily bother me, but I rarely hold onto him back. It's kinda like having an extra blanket...

 

[ajblaise]

All I really need is 30 seconds to space out then I'm good to make spoons.

 

[entropie]

Last time I cuddled a man was when germany won the world championship in soccer

 

[ceecee]

All I really need is 30 seconds to space out then I'm good to make spoons.

First thing in the am spoons. Mmmmmmm.