Thread should have theoretical and practical purpose.
So I here is why I am opening this thread.
I am quite expressed Te user. In a ways it is strange that someone who is isolated rely so much on Te. I know that the post is not small but I had to make a point.
I can scare people around me when I drop my mask on a moment and show my Te. Since people are simply not expecting it. In my environment strong introversion is usually placed in the same box as Fi and sometimes Ti.
But Te does not fit in this movie. With Ni it is even worse but that one you can at least hide.
In my environment there is a clear deficit of N and J so people with Ni are rare.
Also I have well developed Ti and Ne for an INTJ (If tests are showing right picture. I think they are). But that is another story.
So here is the thing. My Te scares people or it can make them uncomfortable. You can even be quite polite but some people will have problems with a lot of Te being thrown around.
The most likely to act this way are FPs. Since they feel that their values are violated and that I want to control them and stuff like that. TPs just think that you are jerk and FJs think you are rude.
Of course I don't provoke this attitude always. Actually I provoke them rarely, which is because I am silent most of the time. But in the future that will not be the case.
So here is the question for NTJs: Did you notice that you are clearly less ďinnocentĒ then people around you?
People around me almost always talk about everyday things: like shopping and items they have bought, sports, how their sister is waiting for a baby, cars, food or politics on a very basic level.
With people who have more education you can discuss: things like art, sociology, or science in the terms of technology and facts.
Some of those topics are really interesting but my real interests go beyond that.
The topics that will surely trigger my interests are: Geopolitics and arrangement of nuclear weapons among countries as well as amount of conventional weapons. This includes ww3 scenarios as well. Interaction of Science and politics (I think that this is greatly underestimated field), discussion about ethics and religion from practical perspective.
Since, I am not too interested in discussion if it is just for the sake of discussion.
In my free time I am creating models of what could happen for 21.century and I try to predict what will happen.
Also I have quite strong interests in the matters of space, time, far future and theory of everything.
In the mean time I donít have anything really fluffy in me. I never had romantic feelings towards someone, I am not a fan of art and empathy/sympathy are not my strengths.
The most social talk you can get from me in the most cases is discussion about strategy games. What can include conversations about killing innocent people and destruction of infrastructure in many cases.
Someone could now ask: Why would someone like me want to study something like rocks?
What clearly sounds as something quite fluffy and enthusiastic profession.
The truth is that rocks contain oil, natural gas and coal. Also rocks are the source of all metals we use in life. The soil quality greatly effects food quality and it also contains a large part of fresh water supply on a global scale. What means that entire society and economy stands on this knowledge. Plus the entire story about gem stones, blood diamonds and oppression of native population. Also the rocks can be used as evidence that religion has holes in it.
So, to study rocks today is anything but innocent game that just fuels imagination.
People learn about this but it looks to me that they donít really understand the real consequences of facts they learn.
This looks like a rant of some sort but I am just pointing at the facts. Since I think that I have a clear deficit of innocence. In a way I am childish but I am not actually. I have never found a person like me in real life and I donít get along with many theoretical people because my approach is too J and too negative in many cases. Over the years I have managed to create approach that allows me to fit in better but in a way I am never myself around others.
So I am wondering if other NTJs on this board are experiencing something similar in their life. Also I would not be surprised that some INTPs can relate to some parts as well.
I think I am not a bad person it just happened that I have dark interests. All of this is probably one of the main reasons why people think that NTJs are evil, even if they say it as a joke.
Also I am wondering how others function in so warm, fluffy and charming way. Since this clearly is not my natural approach.
How do you develop something like that?
I could really use some.