This isn't what you think. I was just thinking today, relative to other people what I do as INTJ is advise. I know because sometimes people make it on to the "Doesn't need my advice" list. So I thought about that list and who's on it. It's easier to say who's on the "Needs my advice" List. The default answer is "No one." And that's how I cruise along from day to day. Then some situation comes along, and I volunteer advice, more or less to see what will happen. That's a crucial time, the seeing what happens time. Either I'm engaged and learning what needs to be recommended next, or I'm being disengaged, seeing my role in the situation fall away, little of my directive package having been used. The timeframe for this seeing what happens part varies according to my preliminary investment in whatever needs the outcome, but it's usually relatively short. And when things are going tits up its usually a relief to realise that whoever's involved doesn't have to be on the list anymore.
'Course, I don't think I've ever seen anything work out the way it's supposed to, but there you go.
(Just sharin'. And anyone who cries Aspergers is off The List.)