[NT] Loneliness

[entropie]

You know a good recipe to deal with it ?

You know noone understands you, cause you talk shit and you know you dont want to be like the others, cause you think their systems are flawed.

I need spiritual guidance ! I so far found out that music is the best healing device, but I am reaching the point of critical mass, when I need to vent.

Opinions, thoughts, strategies, anything ? Porn wont help, I have seen it all :/

A nice movie would be great !

[YOUTUBE="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWeq3NoKSIU"]Cheereo[/YOUTUBE]

 

[nanook]

well self irony helps to keep one from suicide, so this is still one of my favorite songs (german!!) : ich kapitulier nicht, nein nein nein

 

[Little Linguist]

You know a good recipe to deal with it ?

You know noone understands you, cause you talk shit and you know you dont want to be like the others, cause you think their systems are flawed.

I need spiritual guidance ! I so far found out that music is the best healing device, but I am reaching the point of critical mass, when I need to vent.

Opinions, thoughts, strategies, anything ? Porn wont help, I have seen it all :/

A nice movie would be great !

[YOUTUBE="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWeq3NoKSIU"]Cheereo[/YOUTUBE]

I seriously feel that way ALL the time. No, porn does not help. But finding those very, very, very few people who understand you *does help*.

At the end of the day, you can only rely on yourself, though. Happiness is perception.

"Peace within is the way to begin."

Just know you aren't the only one. It gets better...especially when you learn not to try to:

a) change people - doesn't work
b) believe you are a total loser - you have to accept yourself
c) find the answer out there - you won't find it

If you find music brings you peace, go for it. If you're looking for love (another more meaningful phrase might be unconditional acceptance), prostitutes and porn might be appealing initially, but it's all illusory and fake like every other way to distract ourselves. When you think you are not at peace because of others, you are usually not at peace because of your own state of mind. Go there first. The rest will sort itself out on its own. Then you attract the kind of people you want instead of the kind of people you don't want.

Did that make any sense at all? Probably not. So if you want me to clarify, let me know.

 

[Domino]

Don't be sad, Entropie.

*leaves a gift*

YouTube - Junkie XL - Mushroom

 

[entropie]

Thank you.

That is a nice movie to watch again :

[YOUTUBE="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SArkbW6nthg"]Boldly rode the 600[/YOUTUBE]

 

[Fluffywolf]

I search for inspiration in icons, quotes, songs and stories.

One of the quotes that are most important to me.

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Buddha

Also, realizing feeling lonely and being lonely are two entirely seperate things, helps me a lot as well. I know I am not actually lonely, I have people around me. Sometimes however I do feel lonely. Not many people like me around after all. But I put myself over then consciously knowing that it doesn't matter, as long as I remain true to myself.

And here's a very inspirational song!

YouTube - Denny Schneidemesser - Entering the Stronghold

 

[Ulaes]

NTPs actually come from a different planet, thats why you feel so alone.

 

[Fluffywolf]

NTPs actually come from a different planet, thats why you feel so alone.

I like to think that all non NTP's are from another planet and we're the only ones aware of that.

 

[Zoom]

Lonely moments or periods are less common for me than they used to be - probably because I actively changed my life for the better, a bit, in the past few months... but the loneliest I've ever felt was in a crowded room, because that simply drew more attention to the fact that (in my mind) there was no one who cared enough to notice how lonely I felt.

Personally I am happier alone most of the time - but the feeling that there was absolutely no one there for me was still painful for certain reasons.

Strategies? Get out of the house. Simply being outside helps me, as birds and wind and neighbors' puppies can sometimes be easier company than people. The isolation factor was a big one with me - I would feel lonely and then further isolate myself from possible company.

Also: it's very true that you have to be able to be happy with just yourself, and it can be difficult to learn. It's hard to imagine that you can do it - but just imagine all those times you've chuckled to yourself because of something amusing you've noticed, the peace silence can bring and I'm rambling now.

As it is. Hopefully there was some coherency in that.

 

[Amargith]

Go hiking, reconnect with nature.
Take time to self-reflect.
Talk to a good friend.

Even better, do all three at once

...

 

[Winds of Thor]

NTPs actually come from a different planet, thats why you feel so alone.

^TRUE

 

[Domino]

Entropie -

I've stood in the midst of crowds, surrounded by strangers and friends, felt the energy of the collective mass and still couldn't shake a sense of isolation. I had to believe in something greater than myself to keep going... friendship, love, the possibilities of the moment, a God who cared if I lived or died, the goodness of humanity.

Whatever it takes.

 

[iwakar]

Loneliness is the Whale and we are each of us, Jonah. But if we tickle his palate just so, he spits us out again. Rinse, repeat.

Sunshine, small children, danceable music, and sloppy dog kisses usually do the trick in my darkest hour. Anything that reminds me of the invisible web of life that connects us.

 

[Domino]

I remember once, when I was very sick, I hadn't been able to move around much or leave the house, but I went out with my mom on an errand. I was physically exhausted and dismal. I was sitting in the car in silence, and across the street were little kids playing soccer. For some reason, it did everything to help my state of mind, to see little people running around and having a good time and being alive in the present moment.

Like life still existed, even if it was hanging like rags on me.

 

[entropie]

Its the little things indeed ! If it werent for them, I would have killed myself a long long time ago, in this great nation of mine.

[YOUTUBE="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k23ZewdVVSI"]VNV[/YOUTUBE]

 

[dga]

i omved to a different place where i could be around more people that i agree with

 

[sculpting]

Maybe the answer isnt outside of you but within. I find I get very lonely sometimes as I always look external to what is going on around me for Ne infused energetic bliss. I seek other's happiness and affirmation (Fi) and pour myself external. However sometimes it all comes up empty and then I feel rejected and lost.

What I have come to realize is that I have to look inside for a source of strength and to be resiliant so that the sways and flows of life external do not totally unseat me. I have to step away from what is going on around me and look internally. Zarc says this means you strengthen your second function which is Fi for me. For you guys this would be Ti I guess.

I have been trying to do this lately and I kinda get what she was saying. It actually does work and gives me strength to feel less alone.

 

[nanook]

if porn does not work anymore, there is always robot porn

 

[pardo]

mmorpgs, schwarzenegger and other 80's macho movies