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    guys I'm talking about NT's expressions of emotions. The anger theory is part of the book Emotional Intellegence by Goldman, personally I rate that anger is very rarely about anger. Rage is different though....

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    I don't do anger, much. Slight irritation is common, and I will rant/vent to people about other situations. I can't remember the last time I yelled at someone.

    Usually when I think I'm going to get angry I first think "Is this really important in the long run?" and "How can I fix this without a confrontation?"

    My more common emotions are sadness/hopelessness and on the other end, happiness... I'll express it when I'm happy, but you would absolutely never know when I'm depressed.

    I think I'm sort of the exception among NTs in my avoidance of confrontation.

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    well, i might not be T but my secondary Fe is not exactly pro active, let alone my retarded Fi. so yes, anger fear and hurt are the three big ones, for me too.

    but i don't get your stacking. it might be my Fe that represses anger, so what i "DO" is actually "fear" and "hurt", to avoid anger. a lot of NT types seem to have this fake will power thing going on, which is basically anger. "i know what i want, except i don't, but i wont admit it"

    a socionics site writes that NiTeSiFe types have two basic character styles (constant attitudes) to deal with their Fe. either they claim to have no emotions which translates into being in-vulnerable, invincible, which is relative communication, thus a Fe-value-based "lie". or they live like "i will proof that i do have emotions", which is again a Fe-value based ... uhm yearning ... "hinwendung"

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    also, among NT there is the enneagram one, which features the most peculiar method of avoiding anger. but i shall not rant.

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    hey nook,

    you seem comfortable expressing emtions, I'm not convinced T types are....

    My ex-boss says he rarely cries - except with TV/media (emotional equivelent of porn I suspect ), but is often angry when he feels threatened etc.

    I know as part of grieving I did anger instead of digging around in deep hurt...

    Just interested in seeing if this observation is fully NT or just the odd few...

    Lis

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    I do restrict my anger, because of the fact that I need to make sure I'm okay with becoming so and/or showing it. I am not easily angered at all, and when it occurrs the feeling is akin to heat expanding in my chest, with a want to lash out. I avoid hurting others, and that tenant needs to be enforced, even when I feel about to implode.

    Also, it's a complex (but barely seconds long in my head) process - someone does something horrible, I become angry. If I am in front of them, I think first. Am I justified in feeling angry or betrayed right now? Is it worth it to express my hurt/anger/whatnot to this person? Will they listen to me, and realise the gravity of the situation?

    Other emotions - well, it depends on who I am in front of. If I trust the person (rare), I am much more willing to show true emotion in front of them. I experience intense emotions - in private.

    Not the best wording, but I haven't had caffeine today.

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    I'm rarely sad or angry, and when I am it passes quickly.


    My most frequent emotions might be amusement and frustration. I also feel excited when something interesting is happening.


    My typical emotional range:
    1. Neutral but curious
    2. Amused
    3. Frustrated
    4. Excited

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlahBlahNounBlah View Post
    I'm rarely sad or angry, and when I am it passes quickly.


    My most frequent emotions might be amusement and frustration. I also feel excited when something interesting is happening.


    My typical emotional range:
    1. Neutral but curious
    2. Amused
    3. Frustrated
    4. Excited
    I shall second this!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlahBlahNounBlah View Post
    I'm rarely sad or angry, and when I am it passes quickly.


    My most frequent emotions might be amusement and frustration. I also feel excited when something interesting is happening.


    My typical emotional range:
    1. Neutral but curious
    2. Amused
    3. Frustrated
    4. Excited
    Same. I don't get angry, just frustrated and it goes away as quickly as it comes.

    Anxiety, fear and hurt are their own emotions and do not cause anger for me. When I'm anxious I feel anxious, when fearful I feel fear and when hurt I withdraw and try to understand it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlahBlahNounBlah View Post
    I'm rarely sad or angry, and when I am it passes quickly.


    My most frequent emotions might be amusement and frustration. I also feel excited when something interesting is happening.


    My typical emotional range:
    1. Neutral but curious
    2. Amused
    3. Frustrated
    4. Excited
    WHOA! RIGHT ON THE MONEY!!!!!!

    Except frustrated should be frustrated/confused.
    Practice random kindness and senseless acts of beauty.

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