Here's the reality of the situation. I don't want to see emotion based excuses to validate actions done in poor taste.
This post was handled much better than your initial one.
You interpreted that this act was intended to stab. This was incorrect. In spite of that, I think that emotion can validate actions, especially ones done in the heat of the moment. That doesn't mean that they're wrong or right, but that they're understandable. I'm very slow to anger (I know this doesn't necessarily speak for that, lol) and I don't start things. I've probably blown up on this site maybe twice. And you're the second. But it was the way you went about it. Not what you said. I could have respected your opinion had it not been made so personal and so directly insulting to my character.
I don't care who did what in your relationship, I don't need a story to justify the way you're acting as there is no justifying some things.
I wasn't "acting" anyway, until
someone felt the need to bring up something that happened two weeks ago and nitpick it into oblivion by directly insulting a person's character that they had no previous experience with. This type of arrogance I will not tolerate. I wasn't justifying any action, because the action you were accusing me of was misinterpreted as something else.
And to assume that someone wouldn't feel anger at those things is absurd. So yes, I blew up on you. If I had been disrespectful towards you, then your post would have been completely warranted. But from where I'm standing, I wasn't under the impression that I had been disrespectful to anyone, which made your accusations and assumptions that much more insulting.
The reality is that no matter what she did, how big of a bitch or monster she is/was/can be, the fact that you dated somebody like is still a poor reflection on you. You made a choice to be with her, if she is some evil person the other side to that coin is you have poor judgement and it is only in focusing on the latter that you're going to grow beyond calling people names, having emotional outburst and not repeating the same mistakes.
In point of fact, she wasn't a monster. She was beautiful and intelligent. She was funny and energetic. I loved being with her. But it ended. It ended in a way that it shouldn't have ended, and it wasn't handled well. But it did end, and its probably for the best. I have no animosity for her, but to say that I'm not hurt would be ludicrous. And to say that I wasn't hurt then is crazy as well.
And I love how one can never show anger on this forum without facing an
ad hominem argument. Sorry, dude, but this entire confrontation was your doing. You brought it up, you criticized, you judged. I wanted none of this. But if you expect me to sit there and take it, you're dead wrong. I don't start things if I can help it, but by God I'll finish it. You really need to learn how to say things better, because if you start all your points with criticism, you're never going to get any other reaction than the one you got from me. The whole "fuck you" reaction.
You are the one that choice to air the ending of your relationship in a public forum not I, I think it was done in poor taste and this isn't the place for it, end of story.
You know, I hesitated for about five minutes before putting that post. In my mind, I didn't want to bring it up because I didn't want to talk about it. But I felt that a public post was needed since we have publicized our relationship on here so much with pictures and whatnot. I felt it was better to tell a large group at once than to go through everyone individually.
Once again, this is the point. You assumed my intentions, and assumed they were dishonorable. I haven't said a negative word about Femme. And won't. That would be wrong and disrespectful and she doesn't deserve it. But if I'm at mistake on anything, perhaps it was assuming that everyone would know my intentions. Also, perhaps I should have picked another thread. But I picked this one because this was where we had publicly talked about it, so this is where I felt the most people would see it. So, sorry for the misunderstanding? In any case, even if my post was meant as a type of low-class "revenge" scenario, it is not your place to confront me. You are not the Caped Crusader of the forums. I'm sure I could go to several people's posts in the past and find fault with them, but that is not my place.
With that said again, you're an INFJ, you should pick up on what's going on with ease and stay clear. If you didn't there was some underlying reason you didn't be it lack of self respect or wishful thinking.
Oh, convinced you did I?
Anyway, I wish you luck man but I would tell you from the standpoint of somebody else interested in dating you I would see your posts in here as a HUGE red flag that you have a lot of maturing to do before you're capable of being in a healthy relationship.
Um.....like I said........there was only one post in here before you started in, bro. And that was misinterpreted.
As a side note, I don't know either of you, I just picked up on a bitterness I didn't feel had any place in here.
Yeah, but if you noticed, I avoided talking about it. There was no bitterness.
That was confirmed by your responses and I'm sorry man, love hurts, you need to want love more than the fear of having it and you have to know you're going to take some hits looking for it. The people that ultimately end up in an amazing relationship are those that never become bitter or jaded and always stay open to getting hurt again.
That's something she taught me, actually. She taught me a lot of things. She was meant to be a part of my life, and I take the things I got from her with me. I hope she feels the same way.
Any boy can smile when times are good but only a man will smile when they're bad.
True.
This is how you talk to someone Tucson. This is how you confront them. Not by petty insults of character. I'm glad we could work this out.
