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    Post Dealing with overly-critical people

    How do you deal with these people?
    I hate to argue with people who beleive they are always right and criticize you for not following their advice. How do you deal with this type of people.
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    Avoid them like the plague. If you can't, call attention to the fact that their expectations are unreasonable, and that you don't feel the need to adhere to said expectations.
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    Tell them to STFU and put them in their place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tallulah View Post
    Avoid them like the plague. If you can't, call attention to the fact that their expectations are unreasonable, and that you don't feel the need to adhere to said expectations.
    I don' think there's anything else you can do

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    If they are an INTJ, tickle them with yor Fi and distract them.

    If they are crazy, compliment them on how clever they are and how if they only would do "XY and Z" they would be so mch more valuable for the team.

    Carry lab timers so you can make them go off at predetermined intervals so you can escape them.

    Tell them it's against your religion.

    Tell them the aliens said that is NOT the correct answer and will kill you if they do what they are telling you to do.

    Pretend to have an outloud conversation with all the voices in your head where some agree and some disagree. Give them fun names like Mr. Bunny and crunchy oats.

    Tell them your boss disagrees and you will get fired if you do that.

    pretend to have a seizure.

    Tell them they have something on thier face and they need to go to the bathroom to clean it off.

    kick them in the groin.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cloud View Post
    How do you deal with this type of people.
    Just do what they say; they're probably right. And if one said, by chance, please end questions with a question mark, then don't totally ignore it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cloud View Post
    How do you deal with these people?
    I hate to argue with people who beleive they are always right and criticize you for not following their advice. How do you deal with this type of people.
    Prove their wrong once then continually refer to that one time they were wrong whenever they ask you why you don't do what they suggest.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cloud View Post
    How do you deal with these people?
    I hate to argue with people who beleive they are always right and criticize you for not following their advice. How do you deal with this type of people.
    Provide them with the least information possible. If it is someone you want or need to have in your life then make up for the withdrawal by doing nice things for them on your terms, like a compliment or a gift. If the person is not important or necessary to one's life then it is easiest to avoid them.

    I sometimes try to figure out the source of their criticism. On some level it is typically related to insecurity and an exaggerated need to control. These people are not necessarily cruel or horrible even if their words and attitudes cause harm. They have had experiences to shape them to be critical. Sometimes people are so fearful and anxious that they project their pessimism into other people's life choices. Some people feel unheard and unimportant and so overly project their advice on other people. I try to emphasize to those people that my life is stable and good (even when it isn't) and then look for a honest compliment to give them. I deliberately try to make them *feel* secure when talking to me even if they make me feel awful at that moment. Rather than telling them I can be trusted with my own life, I demonstrate it with self-control and calming words.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mort Belfry View Post
    Just do what they say; they're probably right. And if one said, by chance, please end questions with a question mark, then don't totally ignore it.
    *snicker*

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