Love matches in typology are utter bullshit. Don't go after a certain type that supposedly matches you, go after a person that you connect to at a deeper level and get along with. There is too much variation in type and the interests/hobbies of people within a type to have a solid basis for matching them to other types (basically it is non-scientific). People attract people, not types attract types.
Originally Posted by Sytpg
There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
When we'd first met, it just turned out there was a strong mutual attraction well before I figured out her type. It just so happens that the personality traits she exhibited that led me to be attracted to her were correlated with those of a certain type, not that I'd limited my selection due to type alone.
Typology isn't a guide to romance, but it certainly did provide a starting point to understand her and other people better.
ENFP... obviously yes. Small problem: Te used strategically to eliminate threats to Fi... makes for loopy, looping, skittish conversations, and sometimes long gaps in coming back together.
ISFP... hmmm... I have an ISFP buddy and did accidentally wonder one day what would happen if he were female... had to clean my mind out after that. I could see how sex would motivate ignoring the big halting gaps in communication style. ESFP might work it out better, less interest in letting the halts stretch out.
ENTP... not sure I know any, but I think I may, and... scary. Chilly. Watching each other too closely.
How about INFP? I met an INFP guy and it seemed like instant rapport, and he bugs me for that very reason. Monster Fi which calls on me to ramp up the organisational, interpersonal energy level. I am NOT AN ENTJ-nimal!
INFJ... I tend to like them immediately too because there always seems an instant mature communication. But I'm Fe-wary too so, without some necessary choosing to disengage a little, big time competition problems for emotional satisfaction.
Activation functions, people! There's the dual seeking functions--number 5--people look for in others what's 5th for themselves--and then there's the activation functions... I dunno which ones these are, but I assume people are activated when their third or fourth functions are engaged: Fi/Se for an NTJ.