I do have to say that our arrangement, after she didn't want to be exclusive, was we expected nothing from one another but *honesty.* I told her everything that happened on my dates - which was ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. lol
She however had started sleeping with the ex and did not reveal it to me right away. Kinda shady in my eyes.
I always said just let me know if you hookup with someone so that I can determine what to do from there (b/c in the past she has tried to hookup with me while she was hooking up with the ex and I don't roll like that - I only found out about it through a friend and confronted her and she came clean... then dumped him for me... clearly you can see the ping ponging pattern here).
That's why I think I'm going to bail. She just can't seem to decide between me and the ex(fwb). She probably gets different things from both of us and she's pretty much having her cake and eat it too.
She tells me I'm a way high notch up from him and even though she likes it a lot it is scary to her - out of her comfort zone.
Ugh. I think I best walk away, without burning the bridge, and say call me when you figure your stuff out. The problem is I have done that before. She always comes back, says she wants me, then I say ok, then she pushes me away and returns to the ex.
As I see it, prior to your recent chat, there was no understanding between you. Now that there is, you ought to give her a chance, I think. Don't keep harping on about everything that went before - it's water under the bridge. If she messes you around again, or dithers, or does anything to indicate she isn't really invested, it would be over, as far as I'm concerned.
Originally Posted by Ivy
Gosh, the world looks so small from up here on my high horse of menstruation.