That's our biggest challenge.But I heart grown up ENTPs. Especially with well developed Fe who do *not* fake the funk.
What if there weren't any sort of dance at all? That would require trying, and it would get boring really quickly.ENFPs and ENTPs are in an epic cat and mouse dance.
The truth is, some of you get on my damn nerves like crazy with your undeserved arrogance, your socially inept and even intentional rudeness (it's not cute to anyone but you), your self-absorption, your refusal to take personal responsibility for your actions, your shocking inability to take other people's feelings into account (really? you're Ne dom??) and like some of your INTP brethren your reliance on 'but it's logical' to back up whatever just as arbitrary personal belief system or opinion that you've created for yourself.
I wonder, is it arrogance, or is it high expectations of those we care about? Is it taking care to explain exactly what we're thinking because it's often hard to translate into English (not because it's so great or anything, but because we often don't think very linguistically)? Is it because if someone doesn't step in and break the eggs, the omelet will never get made, because no one wants to get egg white all over their hands? Is it possibly because we've gone through our entire lives with the only people understanding how we think being ourselves, and others ascribing motivations that are either non-existent or insulting? Is it because we see how many factors convene in a given situation, and want to explore all of them before just having to shoulder the blame again (because we're the jerks and are always at fault for everything)? Is it because oftentimes, what is called "others' feelings" is simply a self-defense mechanism for not having to take responsibility or culpability in a situation (which we're certainly guilty of as well)? Is it because logic is so important to us, and that we're giving you an opportunity to critique that logic with an aim toward personal growth?
Are you sure that this is the case? Is it just because that sometimes things working without regard to it can be as important as emotional impact, and others respect it? There's a reason people think differently - society needs different people to play different roles. Are you sure that it's just coming in to bail us out, or that perhaps, shockingly, that we do have emotions?Oh the fact though that you get away with so much unnaceptable behavior because non ENXPs buy into your arrogance or are intimidated with how mean or capable you can be or that damn Fe wing that comes in and saves the day at the last minute - that drives me crazier!!!
We do tend to have multifaceted interests - especially in areas that work without us really knowing whyOh yeah, insert here how one of my besties is an ENTP female - and yoga teacher!!! How you like them apples!??!!
It confuses me when I see these sorts of critiques. I understand that our actions can be emotionally charged in a way that isn't immediately apparent to us, but there's this underlying current that we're doing it on purpose specifically to hurt you, and like many of us on this site have noted, this couldn't be further from the truth. This applies to both ENTPs and men in general.But even you really annoying ENTP females get a grudging pass from me because whatever woman is a pain in the ass to the male kind gets a mini-vote from me. LOL.
Wouldn't it just be easier to point out what we're doing, and leave it there? I'm not saying we won't get defensive; that's often out of the window unless it's done right. What I am saying is that we won't ever disregard your thoughts forthrightly. There is a world inside our heads that we explore fairly regularly (Ne + Ti will do that every time). It's just that we may not express this process outwardly, so when our behavior seems to shift radically, others think it's just being erratic, when it's actually the internalization of an external process.