I know thats not fair to treat people and it is in fact no way for me to sort people out or do something. The fact is, I dont evaluate anyone. I dont talk about people behind their backs and I quite rarely talk about myself, initially and want everybody to listen.
You are right about the "coming off as a jackass thing", but I have to say, maybe this is where finally an overall NT-ness can be experienced in the entp. Because most of the times, I dont want to start personal conversations with people.
It is a unique thing, only inherited by a few select individuals in the world, to be able to talk with some grace and a dash of style and I am really into those people, because most of the times, if they have the wisdom to understand, they also wont hurt me, if I open up to them. (Its something like a compability check)
This thing though and you are right about that, is a totally personal thing to me. As a grownup entp, one should be able to talk to everyone on a decent level of conversation and one should be able aswell to enter into a clear and interpretational free private conversation with someone, one likes.
I needed some time to learn that, but frequent conversations with people showed me the rules and therefore maybe this is something coming with age.
I have no solution for entps, who lack that attitude though. I am no psychologist. I will have again phases in my life, where I will fuck work and do again what I want, haphazardly screwing everything I build up until then. And I know one of these phases will be my undoing, the one that will have circumstances I could not have planned for. But I cant change that, its me.
I will remember your critique in upcoming posts and try to maintain a casual level with you. I understood your criticism and will give it further thought. So I hope that is noted