I need advice on how to deal with this person and how, possibly, to help them.
44 yold guy who I work with. Mostly offsite but lots of communication back to the home front.
His is very clever, very good at the tactical work he does, and has vision which is sorely lacking at my istj heavy company.
however he is burning bridges everywhere and has pissed off, well just about everyone.
he is usally right and visionary, however when expressing his opinion :
-will be arrogant and dismissive of others
-will talk over them
-will blow off what they say
-is very physical and emotive in his communication style-talks loudly, lots of expressions and hand gestures
-honest to a fault about the flaws in those he is working with
-basically has told an entire group he should be in charge of them
-is quite ignorant of how to deal with "normal" people
I can take his opinion, present it is a different style and actually make progress internally with the different groups. The opinion is correct, however he is the problem, usually.
He is really an odd entp. I assumed he was an INTJ for a while given some of the early communication issues I noted. However he goes black and white from Ti when he is working on the topic of choice, to a manic Ne-Fe craziness when off the clock/topic. Like there is no middle ground.
When in Ne-Fe mode he Hits on all the women, well everywhere, and is one of the most hyperactive people I have ever seen. Parties like a crazed maniac.
I need this person as an important cog in the organizational structure but he is causing havoc amongst the ranks.
How does he learn to shut the fuck up? my entp firends say they leanred this at like 15 when they got the crap kicked out of them a few times for sharing unwanted opinions.
thoughts and ideas?