Hmm, I didn't read the whole thread but based on the fact that it's really hard for you to experience love - I'd say don't go for an INFP. That's a major red flag for me, because it means that you likely won't be able to love me. We generally want our mates to have profound feeling toward us, or else there's no point.
We also want our mates to have profound feelings in general, because it's incredible to explore those with other people - travelling down into the raw depths of our psyches and holding hands all the way.
And we are wary of being hurt by people (maybe this is a trait common to more than just INFPs) so we steer clear of getting involved with people who we know don't or won't care about us very much.
Hope none of this comes off as an attack! But I'd advise you not to go after INFPs, and probably not NFs in general.