Hello there, dear rationales.
I made this thread to discuss a friend of mine, most likely an ENTP, and his habit of being very aggressive towards me.
So, how do I know he's an ENTP? Here's few points:
-He's always ready to argue. Just about anything... and with anyone.
-He's your "Devil's advocate" straight from the book. I mean, he's ready to confuse anyone around him just for good laughs. He's creating drama just to see how others would react.
-He has truly an unique train of thoughts. He can come up with incredibly unique ideas, but is having big troubles with very basic logics.
-Great improviser (especially verbally)
-Very, very arrogant.
Now, he's an ENTP alright?
The history, a short version: We have been friends 10+ years now (which is about half of my life). There have been times we weren't that close (only saw like once a month), and there have been times I've spent most of time with him. In general, I think of him as my close friend.
The problem: Lately we have been arguing a lot, and it has been very heated. And about every conversation we've had, it always ends up in shouting (lately I have force myself to remain calm, and cool-headed, but he's the same). It's intolerable, and I'm much happier with not having him around. But it's a long friendship... I can't discard a friend like that, at least not without trying to fix it.
My view of the problem: He is aggressive. Whatever he says or does, is coated with venomous poisons. When I asked him to stop being so passive-aggressive, he just says: "Oh, sorry... I forgot that I have to treat you with silken gloves and pillows, so that you wouldn't hurt yourself. Maybe I should even agree with your infallible logics, because you are so all-knowing."
And then he starts listing arguments in which he has proven himself being correct, and me showing my total lack of knowledge in the area in question.
Anyway, as you probably can see, I don't care much about the arguments. I HATE his way of arguing. He's only looking for a victory, as if it was a competition of wits and competence, rather than a mutual search for the truth. And when he's winning, he starts to "beat down" his adversary with insults (regarding his intelligence and views).
I think he's completely lacking empathy and is completely unable to see where I stand with my opinions.
Now, what he thinks of this issue: I think he might see me as an elitist (well, I am a bit of an elitist. ) who thinks he's infallible and greater than anyone else. He might be thinking that I avoid straight confrontation and arguments because I would be afraid of losing them and thus proving that I'm not that wise after all.
Anyways... It's a long rant. Hope you made it through here. I don't know if it was any good, since there's so much to tell, and I can only tell my side of the story. But any of you ENTPs had any similar troubles with ISTJs or other types? Or has anyone else had similar problems with ENTPs?