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    You kinda make it sound as if it's her fault you've put in ridiculous amounts of energy.

    Peguy is bitter, but his experience remains. INTJs are not necessarily easy to romance or be in a relationship with. But they might be pretty amazing.

    Perhaps you should make your intentions clear and give her some time to ponder them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uytuun View Post
    You kinda make it sound as if it's her fault you've put in ridiculous amounts of energy.

    Peguy is bitter, but his experience remains. INTJs are not necessarily easy to romance or be in a relationship with. But they might be pretty amazing.

    Perhaps you should make your intentions clear and give her some time to ponder them.
    I think on some level I'm blaming her because I'm predicting my own failure. I mean if we do develop a relationship I'll be proud of how long I stuck it out and all of the feelings I've dealt with over the past few months.

    I can't make my intentions totally clear right now. I'm kind of in a cooling off stage. Her schedule is hectic over the next few weeks so I'm holding off from asking her out on anymore dates. I'm just trying to be a good friend. But, as soon as I think I can have a really serious conversation with her about my intentions without totally overwhelming her I'm gonna do it.

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    Thank you for all your posts I deeply appreciate all the help.

    Hahaha, I'm pretty sure we're not 'in a relationship without knowing it'. I'd be pretty happy if we were. At the moment, I'm just going to take it slow with her and try to be helpful in any way.

    Good luck to you Beefeater; I think if we're determined to do it, we'll get to their hearts one day (as long as we don't become stalkerish).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Peguy View Post
    You can forget about her now, thus saving yourself the trouble and just move on with your life. I regret not taking that course of action.
    Awww Peguy... On behalf of all the INTJ's who've been asses...

    Quote Originally Posted by Sphare View Post
    Thank you for all your posts I deeply appreciate all the help.

    Hahaha, I'm pretty sure we're not 'in a relationship without knowing it'. I'd be pretty happy if we were. At the moment, I'm just going to take it slow with her and try to be helpful in any way.

    Good luck to you Beefeater; I think if we're determined to do it, we'll get to their hearts one day (as long as we don't become stalkerish).
    Stalkers do have that certain je ne sais quoi...
    Embrace the possibilities.

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    You know guys, somehow I don't like how a few people make us INTJ look like monsters. Because we are not all the assy type.
    Also I must honestly say that I am a little sick about people who hear "Person x is an INTJ" get all distanced.
    I just though I should add this for the sake of all the non-typical INTJs on this forum and the world.
    Rule #1: Driver picks the music. Shotgun shuts his cakehole.

    Again, Demons I get, but people are just crazy.

    ESTP? o.O

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uytuun View Post
    Peguy is bitter, but his experience remains. INTJs are not necessarily easy to romance or be in a relationship with. But they might be pretty amazing.
    Pssh... INTJs are easy to romance... Like all IxTx, they are just a bit more... frictiony... than the alternatives, but that's about as far as "type" can go, and even that is very weak. Obviously very disagreeable (very T) people are going to be a strain on a relationship, but the spectrum of Ts is pretty broad, even as far as that goes.

    Pretty hard to see who is more "frictiony" in my relationship, heh. I'm pretty sure it's me

    The complaints that people are mentioning could describe any generic relationship issue, down to the letter. It has nothing to do with type. If I had a dime for every "I put in so much work into this and she just didn't (x)" that I've heard...

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    Quote Originally Posted by GargoylesLegacy View Post
    You know guys, somehow I don't like how a few people make us INTJ look like monsters. Because we are not all the assy type.
    Also I must honestly say that I am a little sick about people who hear "Person x is an INTJ" get all distanced.
    I just though I should add this for the sake of all the non-typical INTJs on this forum and the world.
    You're right. Out of 5 INTJs, only one of them is assy. The rest are fine and I'm pretty close to them as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ThatsWhatHeSaid View Post
    Lets see. INTJ, INTJ... *thumbs through notebook* Ah yes, INTJ:

    * Make fun of her in a playful way
    * Challenge her at the stuff that she's good at
    * Find stuff you're better at than she is and rub it in her face
    * Avoid talking about your feeling, as she has none and can't relate
    * Buy her creative, semi-useful, ornamental toys and gadgets
    * Make her something thoughtful

    That'll be $5 for the best advice you've ever received, ever.
    Haha, this is brilliant and I agree.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beefeater View Post
    I can't make my intentions totally clear right now. I'm kind of in a cooling off stage. Her schedule is hectic over the next few weeks so I'm holding off from asking her out on anymore dates.
    So you've already asked her out? Did she say no?

    For me, there really does not need to be a long wooing process. . . or any wooing at all. I know right away when I like someone, and in most of my relationships, I have done something about that annoying feeling. Sometimes it has worked and other times it led to rejection.

    I only avoid questions of my feelings or going places with somone if I can tell that they like me, and I do not feel the same way.

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