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    You can ask when she thinks __ is appropriate in a relationship. How does she view the progression of a relationship. What does she think about ___.

    It might be better to not try to pin her down with "how do you feel about ME" She might prefer to answer in a more general manner.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GargoylesLegacy View Post
    I'd say whenever you want - if you can take it. Because you can be sure she will give you a honest answer. And you might not like it.

    Also you shouldn't ask that too often. Just saying.
    That's the thing, I'd be asking it that way for the honest answer. Pain is pain, but I find the truth doesn't hurt for as long. Idealy, I'd want to ask her before I allowed myself any serious feelings towards her which would mitigate a lot of the emo crap.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elaur View Post
    You can ask when she thinks __ is appropriate in a relationship. How does she view the progression of a relationship. What does she think about ___.

    It might be better to not try to pin her down with "how do you feel about ME" She might prefer to answer in a more general manner.
    See that's why I worded it as thoughts and intentions; I figured they would be less threatening than feel which is a grey mess with any type.
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    Oh my gracious INFP and INTJ. Wow. The strength in that relationship would be that the INTJ is not going to be "offended" or as "sensitive" as the INFP.

    I'm not sure an INFP taking pain from an INTJ would be the route to go. You are not working to either of the strengths there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elaur View Post
    Oh my gracious INFP and INTJ. Wow. The strength in that relationship would be that the INTJ is not going to be "offended" or as "sensitive" as the INFP.

    I'm not sure an INFP taking pain from an INTJ would be the route to go. You are not working to either of the strengths there.
    I hope this clarifies things:
    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post
    Idealy, I'd want to ask her before I allowed myself any serious feelings towards her which would mitigate a lot of the emo crap.
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    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post
    Here's a question: "When is a good time to ask an INTJ what her thoughts and intentions are regarding me?"
    If she's on these forums... she's probably thinking to just use you for sex.

    Kiddin. ... although, if someone worded it like that: "...thoughts and intentions are regarding me" I'd probably resist the urge to giggle and then make a smart ass remark about only entertaining thoughts of ravaging them...

    You'd be best to time the question when you're both in a serious conversation or intimate-ish mode. If not, she's probably bound to crack jokes.
    Embrace the possibilities.

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    From what I've observed most NT women like it when someone is just being themselves. I've run into a couple (literally 2) INTJ women, they really enjoyed it when I was myself. They liked to talk about their philosophies with me, and I enjoyed it too. Seems like a great combination if you aren't offended by bluntness (which I actually like bluntness, it gets things done).
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    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post
    That's the thing, I'd be asking it that way for the honest answer. Pain is pain, but I find the truth doesn't hurt for as long. Idealy, I'd want to ask her before I allowed myself any serious feelings towards her which would mitigate a lot of the emo crap.
    Well, some INTJs take quite some time until they would call you a friend, so it is probably going to take even a bit more until she would consider a relationship. INTJs go from "stranger" to "friend" and then "boy/girlfriend possibilty". Well, most of them at least.
    So, if you ask too early, she might just say "How can I know yet?" and if you are very unlucky it will bother her, since we aren't exactly too happy about people trying to hit on us in a "normal" way. *cough*

    What you are gonna need is quite some patience. I know how it is if you want to know really badly. And I also know it can be difficult to have patience with that, but you should take that time.

    However, if you are already friends with that girl, then go ahead and ask her carefully. That means that you shouldn't make it look like some cheap flirting. If you can manage that, it's all good and you will get your honest answer. =)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sphare View Post
    Lately I've developed some feelings for an INTJ girl. She's a high achieving perfectionist, striving for her law degree, playing in golf tournaments worldwidel, getting top grades, etc. Is there anything I can do besides beating her in everything that she cares about?
    You can forget about her now, thus saving yourself the trouble and just move on with your life. I regret not taking that course of action.

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    I'm in the midst of chasing an INTJ female law student right now. Its a frickin' marathon. I've already put in ridiculous amounts of thought and energy into trying to establish a relationship... and probably the best thing I've done so far is restrain myself from putting all that energy and thought into action. Its been really hard trying not to bowl her over with my INFP emotional gooey-ness.

    Its a lot of effort to put out without knowing if anything will come of it.

    I keep wondering if I shouldn't just take Peguy's advice.

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