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    Quote Originally Posted by 01011010 View Post
    Be yourself. I'm serious.
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    Yeah, seconded. Be yourself = being honest; and we are just well-known for being that ourselves.
    Quote Originally Posted by ed111 View Post
    Being yourself is the best advice.
    "Being yourself" is tricky advice because there is a good chance that she won't like you if you are yourself. There's also a good chance that she won't like you if you try to be someone else.

    So. . . you're screwed.

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    There's a good chance she won't know if she likes you, too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Geoff View Post
    There's a good chance she won't know if she likes you, too.
    I think that she would know. . . however, there's a good chance that she won't know what to do if she likes you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nottaprettygal View Post
    I think that she would know. . . however, there's a good chance that she won't know what to do if she likes you.
    A quote from an IRL friend of mine, an INTJ (sadly, male, in this instance) :

    "Why is it when I approach people that I like, that they look at me like I just beamed down from the mothership?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by nottaprettygal View Post
    "Being yourself" is tricky advice because there is a good chance that she won't like you if you are yourself.
    Well, that can always happen. But we'd rather be with somebody that is at least honest than with somebody that is a cheater. I mean the honesty gets people already some bonus points.
    Rule #1: Driver picks the music. Shotgun shuts his cakehole.

    Again, Demons I get, but people are just crazy.

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    It's probably not a requirement unique to INTJs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GargoylesLegacy View Post
    Well, that can always happen. But we'd rather be with somebody that is at least honest than with somebody that is a cheater. I mean the honesty gets people already some bonus points.
    What do you mean by "cheater?" So if someone is trying their very hardest at the beginning of a relationship to put their best foot forward, they are somehow fake and dishonest?

    Because I understand the nervousness and stress that comes with getting to know someone you really like, I let a few jittery lies slide. I'm not going to speak for all INTJ women, but I understand the need to wear a mask when meeting new people. It's just a way to keep your guard up until you decide whether or not they are worthy of letting it down.

    If one is still lying years into the relationship, well. . . that's a different story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nottaprettygal View Post
    What do you mean by "cheater?" So if someone is trying their very hardest at the beginning of a relationship to put their best foot forward, they are somehow fake and dishonest?
    No, if you just show your best that is not cheating. But if you start to be something you are not, just to impress sombody or to get better chances. I have had some experiences with that. And in the end peole would blame ME for "having to change". I never told them to do so. They just tried to make me believe they were like they acted. Long story short: it's this that I mean; and not somebody working hard on a honest level. If people want to change for their own sake, that is always fine with me. But not just to have better chances.
    Masks are okay, but only to a certain degree and for a certain time, as you pointed out already.
    Rule #1: Driver picks the music. Shotgun shuts his cakehole.

    Again, Demons I get, but people are just crazy.

    ESTP? o.O

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    Here's a question: "When is a good time to ask an INTJ what her thoughts and intentions are regarding me?"
    Dreams are best served manifest and tangible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by runvardh View Post
    Here's a question: "When is a good time to ask an INTJ what her thoughts and intentions are regarding me?"
    I'd say whenever you want - if you can take it. Because you can be sure she will give you a honest answer. And you might not like it.

    Also you shouldn't ask that too often. Just saying.
    Rule #1: Driver picks the music. Shotgun shuts his cakehole.

    Again, Demons I get, but people are just crazy.

    ESTP? o.O

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