Risen, I understand that you want an NT woman who will understand and appreciate who you are, but can you understand and appreciate who she is too?
Psh! That's easy . For real though, that's the easy part. This is pretty much how it goes for me "If you're cool with me, then I'm good with you. If you don't like me, then just what can I do? Will I try with might to earn thou respect and love? Or will I stop short of crossing the bridge that never was?"
In other words, it takes two to tango, but as long as you can get past my faults, I will ALWAYS accept yours. If you wonder why I think this way (as I believe most people do...) maybe my enneagram might provide some sort of answer...
Most NT men I know tend more towards F types for partners. Or at least not fellow NTs. I think this might change a bit as they grow older and have been sufficiently screwed over by the Fs to value the mutual understanding and lower drama rate that NT-NT gives.