yeah I mean, I often have to spend a long time with an INTP (and a lot of mental effort as well!) to come to a resolution anyways. I put in the effort though, because I've discovered that annoyingly enough they're almost always right.
I mean I've just learned to not try and go into too much of a "get to the bottom of this!" mode when talking?
Also, nightning I totally do the "yes it is?" or "no?" thing too for the sake of confirming. Another thing I notice that I do, but only if I'm nervous with a new person, is I often end each thing I say with an immediate "does that make any sense?" before they get a chance to say anything!
Mostly because I tend to instantly think they don't get it.
Ah, yes. I don't even bother to use question marks in my personal correspondence.
People I talk to on IM have realized that every sentence is a question so I don't have to use question marks anymore either.
They also assume a snarky sarcastic tone.
Originally Posted by Aimahn
Do you find this as sort of a barrier or source of friction with INTPs or even ENTPs?
I don't have any trouble communicating with INTPs or ENTPs, they know my favorite past time is mocking them. They can usually read between the lines. Other types are the problem, they take me literally.
I guess I have it hard wired into me that statements are usually authoritative. My teachers and principals used this rule to full effect with me. My dad naturally does this, and being as he sort of holds that title, or held it, over me it rubbed me the wrong way at times. On my end I usually want to flex and stretch the topic at hand and am not really interested in a consensus or progress even, and that inevitably annoys the hell out of him. I like to twist and disprove in a pedantic way with him though.
My cold, snide, intellectual life is just a veneer, behind which lies the plywood of loneliness.
I use a questioning tone in the same way, and I'm pretty sure I got it from an ENTP friend of mine in high school... [I also uses ellipses quite a lot, to give a feel of open-endedness, though I'd imagine this is probably more of an INTP thing than an INTJ thing (and I use parentheticals to to clarify my statements, and have been told that I modify much of what I say)]