Well, yeah. I like having about 2-3 regular associates to hang around with, and if one moves away or something, it's a jolt. Which has happened to me an inordinate amount of times. A safe estimate is that five of my best friends since I was five have moved away.
Ditto, except I'm the one who always does the moving :/ .
Hmm, I don't think I really get lonely. I find my preference for solitude very energizing, peaceful, and relaxing. However, I do feel loneliness at times when it comes to having certain perspectives or entertaining particular ideas. However this forum has helped immensely with that, I think I piss most of my friends off with the thoughts I have and bring up.
Originally Posted by Popsicle
I think our enjoyment of solitude lessens the possibility of loneliness. An entire weekend with no human contact is something I look forward to.
It takes very little contact for me to avoid loneliness. Spending time with a SO is really all I need, plus one close friend. I mean...it's hard to quantify like I'm attempting to do here. I'll say that a little *quality* time goes a long way. I can still be lonely if all my contact with humans is superficial and shallow. So, it's pretty easy to stave off. However, when I do feel lonely, it's literally painful physically. It's a pretty horrible ache.
I.. eh... I never kept friends for long throughout my life but I have dozens of acquaintances. This allows me human contact without all that silly emotional commitment. Loneliness, for me, stems from my feelings of general alienation and not the inability to socialize with other people. I can get on with people just fine but I'm always aware that the majority of my interaction with others is just a quick refill of human contact and then it's off on my own again.
I know a girl, she's one of a kind
But the poor little thing, she's going out of her mind
There's something you forgot - there's a reason why she's lost
Cos baby she don't want to be found
I think different types get lonely in different contexts and for different reasons, as others have described here. The question is hard to answer unless one qualifies it a great deal more.\
I usually feel lonely, even though I enjoy being alone.
(If that makes any sense.)
I enjoy not having my physical freedom imposed on and I enjoy being autonomous.
I hate not feeling understood (imo) by much of the world; that's the thing that leaves me feeling lonely. I also miss not having someone just to put my arms around or to do the same for me; it would be nice having someone physically nearby sometimes.
Loneliness is something we experience more than most. But it doesn't necessarily have negative connotations. I am kind of just more aware of it.
There's a sweet melancholy in solitude, for me. I do enjoy solitude so much - prefer and revel in it, all that jazz. But solitude is the choice of being alone, not loneliness... and the times I have felt most alone have oftentimes been when I'm around the highest number of people.
It seems to reinforce the fact that they don't see what I see, realise all of the little, amazing things that I notice and appreciate about the universe (and occasionally other people).
Physical touch grounds me, makes me happy. Also, on occasion the thinking actually becomes too much - when I overanalyse certain things, or can't stop the cogs turning and I need to do something like study, or just be. Another person can help distract me in the good way.
But I only really want... two close connections or so, on average. I do the deeper connections, so two friends, one SO and one friend, etc, is about all I can... upkeep. Many academic acquaintances, but that is at university.