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    Ordinarily, my answer is an appropriate assessment of their detriments according to what I want.
    Isn't that how you're sposta answer all questions?
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    didn't read all the responses but i think by distancing yourself from it on any deeply personal level...like i don't hate you...i just think we are very different people who don't have a lot of common ground and it can be quite frustrating trying to relate to you but there's nothing wrong with either of us...we're just not very compatible...it's no one's fault and it doesn't mean we can't be civil to one another.

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    I never had anyone ask me that, or equivalent, so I dunno.

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    I don't know what the OP's parents are like.

    But recently someone here asked me that question and I perceived it as an attempt to put me on the defensive.

    What should you do? Throw a defensive statement back as Llulah suggested? Protest and dump a few dozen compliments on them? Ignore it? Any are options considering that I consider it noncommunication.

    Guess if I were invested in the questioner I'd try to ask questions which would expose the meaning behind the question.
    "No ray of sunshine is ever lost, but the green which it awakes into existence needs time to sprout, and it is not always granted to the sower to see the harvest. All work that is worth anything is done in faith." - Albert Schweitzer

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    Lie. It works well for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    How are you supposed to answer this question?

    Particularly when you don't really like the person asking.
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    Perhaps answer honestly?
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    You know, normally I would, but this is a situation where answering honestly makes me risk, well, being fed, having a roof over my head, etc.
    In that case I'd suggest "can I answer honestly?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by erinavery View Post
    didn't read all the responses but i think by distancing yourself from it on any deeply personal level...like i don't hate you...i just think we are very different people who don't have a lot of common ground and it can be quite frustrating trying to relate to you but there's nothing wrong with either of us...we're just not very compatible...it's no one's fault and it doesn't mean we can't be civil to one another.
    no...you should really just listen to me...i'm good at this shit.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Anja View Post
    Guess if I were invested in the questioner I'd try to ask questions which would expose the meaning behind the question.
    This is what I would do too.

    Tread gently. Tap into that Fi.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    You know, normally I would, but this is a situation where answering honestly makes me risk, well, being fed, having a roof over my head, etc.
    Is there any option to start working in the direction of getting another roof over your head?

    It's hard to know what to say in someone else's situation not knowing any details. I usually tell people as close to the truth as possible. It might be worth at least knowing the answer to the question for yourself if it isn't a feeling you have examined. If there is anything you appreciate about the person, I'd suggest starting with that, and if there are any conflicts you think could be resolved if brought up, then that could be a good idea. Increasing the negative tension with criticisms that cannot or will not make a difference wouldn't be constructive. Beyond that, I would start making a plan to change the circumstance even if it takes a while. Just knowing you are working towards a change can make a negative situation more bearable in the present.
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    my typical response to that goes as follows

    *snobby look*

    I don't hate you- hating takes too much effort.

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