User Tag List

123 Last

Results 1 to 10 of 47

  1. #1
    Permabanned
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    MBTI
    ISTP
    Enneagram
    9w8
    Posts
    3,187

    Default INTP first impressions

    Ok. This is something of a two tier question. For INTP's, how do you think people usually perceive you when they first meet you, or very early in a relationship? What goes on in your head, with your analysis of how other perceive you? Secondly, how do you other types perceive INTP's upon first meeting them and first getting to know them? Or if the INTP's know, go ahead and state what the people you've encountered ACTUALLY thought about you (would most likely require that they've actually told you).

    For me, I think people usually perceive me (mainly talking about offline too) as distant, sometimes too quiet. I believe they also think I'm too serious at times, or if I'm in a talkative humerus mood, they think I'm more serious with my humor than I really am. Then there are those people who are initially attracted to my personality, who generally get to see more sides of me than the former batch of people, and initially pick up the understanding of what I'm really about much more easily. I think this has MUCH to do with different opposing personality types and complimentary personality types, yet there are a great number of other factors that play into initial impressions as well.

  2. #2
    Rats off to ya! Mort Belfry's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    MBTI
    INTP
    Posts
    1,237

    Default

    I feel people probably think I'm quiet at first, but I notice a few people try to provoke me with questions which at first makes me shyer, but seems as though they think something interesting lurks beneath.

    When I'm responsive people think that I'm a nice guy but I always feel that that person thinks I'm unintelligent. This motivates me to got out of my way try to prove them wrong, but which in turn actually proves them right.
    Why do we always come here?

    I guess we'll never know.

    It's like a kind of torture,
    To have to watch this show.

  3. #3
    Summer laintpe's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    MBTI
    iNtP
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Posts
    569

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Risen View Post
    Ok. This is something of a two tier question. For INTP's, how do you think people usually perceive you when they first meet you, or very early in a relationship? What goes on in your head, with your analysis of how other perceive you? Secondly, how do you other types perceive INTP's upon first meeting them and first getting to know them? Or if the INTP's know, go ahead and state what the people you've encountered ACTUALLY thought about you (would most likely require that they've actually told you).
    I can kind of pretend to be social at first.... but give it a few minutes and it crumbles. Shy would be an obvious description, some people have referred to it as "mysterious", but that's only because I'm so quiet. If I don't try to overcome my shyness, they lose interest in trying to get to know me. Some people have told me that they thought I was annoyed by them... but I wasn't at all and in some cases have actually really liked those people.

    To compensate, I sometimes try to act really "smiley" and almost ditzy so I don't come off as aloof or annoyed.... pair that with my appearance and I know those I'm around think I'm lacking a few brain cells. If it's a group of people... I feel like I can't think clearly (there's too much to observe?), tend to look down and hope the attention stays on someone else. In those situations I don't think I'm noticed; although, a few have told me I look sad, bored, or off in my own world. Oh, and most people think I'm not listening... but I'm pretty much always listening... beware!

    My humor can be kind of odd, but that doesn't come out until I've known someone for awhile or am really tired. Once I'm a little more comfortable I start to act like the people I'm around... sometimes that works, sometimes it seems like people don't really like themselves (ha-ha-ha). Other times, I try to test people's reactions... and I've really tried to stop doing that.. because most of the people I'm around are not NT's... and they really don't seem to like that. Overall, I don't feel like myself in the presence of 2+ people... unless i'm a detached observer.

  4. #4
    Permabanned
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    MBTI
    ISTP
    Enneagram
    9w8
    Posts
    3,187

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by laintpe View Post
    I can kind of pretend to be social at first.... but give it a few minutes and it crumbles. Shy would be an obvious description, some people have referred to it as "mysterious", but that's only because I'm so quiet. If I don't try to overcome my shyness, they lose interest in trying to get to know me. Some people have told me that they thought I was annoyed by them... but I wasn't at all and in some cases have actually really liked those people.

    To compensate, I sometimes try to act really "smiley" and almost ditzy so I don't come off as aloof or annoyed.... pair that with my appearance and I know those I'm around think I'm lacking a few brain cells. If it's a group of people... I feel like I can't think clearly (there's too much to observe?), tend to look down and hope the attention stays on someone else. In those situations I don't think I'm noticed; although, a few have told me I look sad, bored, or off in my own world. Oh, and most people think I'm not listening... but I'm pretty much always listening... beware!

    My humor can be kind of odd, but that doesn't come out until I've known someone for awhile or am really tired. Once I'm a little more comfortable I start to act like the people I'm around... sometimes that works, sometimes it seems like people don't really like themselves (ha-ha-ha). Other times, I try to test people's reactions... and I've really tried to stop doing that.. because most of the people I'm around are not NT's... and they really don't seem to like that. Overall, I don't feel like myself in the presence of 2+ people... unless i'm a detached observer.
    I swear you just described me, lol. I think people also believe I'm annoyed by them, but in reality it takes A LOT to annoy me or for me to reject someone :/. I've learned not to act too jovial just to make myself seem warmer, as it has the effect you just described. I often rely heavily on the "chameleon" trait many intp's have, and mimic the people I'm around to some degree and learn social skills that way. I also have a lot of difficulty in groups of people larger than 3 (including myself). At that point you usually have varying numbers of extroverts battling for dominance, shifting the playing field to a level of extroversion that I'm not comfortable keeping up with; on top of the fact that with more people it's harder to decide how to act and what what I should be "mimicking". I would also add that the chameleon thing happens largely on an unconscious level. I don't really consciously try to go out and emulate other people's behavior.
    I also have a habit of "testing" people, though that usually only presents itself online. It's not beneficial at all if you care about interacting with those people in the future.

    For pretty much my entire life, school has been the place where people are alarmingly quick to label me as "the smart guy". That often doesn't help me much, as half seem to be intimidated by that in their own insecurities or whatever. The other half expect me to always be smart and serious, and build expectations and assumptions about me that are not accurate, and only lead them into a state of confusion where they give up on the mystery that is Risen :p .

  5. #5
    homo-loving sonovagun anii's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    MBTI
    infp
    Enneagram
    9
    Socionics
    fuck
    Posts
    900

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Risen View Post
    Secondly, how do you other types perceive INTP's upon first meeting them and first getting to know them?
    clever, witty, and intimidating
    There's reason to be afraid, and reason to open your heart. ~ Seal

    Refreshment for your ears: www.kexp.org

  6. #6
    Senior Member norepinephrine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    INTP
    Posts
    402

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Risen View Post
    Ok. This is something of a two tier question. For INTP's, how do you think people usually perceive you when they first meet you, or very early in a relationship? What goes on in your head, with your analysis of how other perceive you?
    Based on feedback I've gotten from people after they've gotten to know me better, I'd say most think I'm a hell of a lot more serious and 'stuffy' than I am. I've had people admit that prior to one incident or another when I let fly with one of those infamous INTP off-the-cuff politically incorrect observations, they'd watched their own language when around me.

    OTOH, I'm sure I've led others astray with an initial "Chatty Cathy" approach. But that's generally a persona I adopt when I don't really give a damn about the people I'm conversing with but wish to escape the encounter with a minimum of friction. It's kind of like my "people-person" default autopilot - I couldn't tell you five minutes later what I said, nor do I particularly care.

  7. #7
    ThatGirl
    Guest

    Default

    I talked to an INTP for a very long time last night. I would say first impression wise he came off to be very F from a distance. They seem quiet and reserved. The funny thing is that in the turn or a second you can get a fairly cold stubborn glance at them. I dont think its intentional, but it is deffinatly weird. Seems feeler, thinker, feeler, thinker.

    They come off intelligent, and content, with a little inner turmoil.

    They are fun.

  8. #8
    Member brilliantwomble's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Socionics
    INTp
    Posts
    48

    Default

    It depends on several factors really. If I am with a close friend when I meet new people and I haven't heard about them before, then I am usually fairly chatty and most of the time I make a decent first impression. People might think I am a lot more extraverted than I really am. If I am with the same close friend, but meeting someone new that I have heard about before, I usually come off as distant and calculated. I am usually trying to figure out if what I heard about them is true and where they fit into my picture of who I thought they would be. So in those cases I come off cold and distant, usually rather quiet.

    If I meet someone new by myself and I never have heard about them, I am usually quiet, distant, and people probably think I am arrogant and uninterested--whether or not that is the case.

    If I meet someone new by myself and I have heard about them before, I again come of calculated, but more playful. Without someone else I know around me I feel freer to explore things and test people.

    In general I am pretty sure I come off opinionated and give the impression that I am a lot more set in my views that I really am. I tend to take a stance just for the heck of it and those that don't know me miss that. I do come of distant though that is pretty much a given. The part that is funny and yet sad at the same time is that I would never give off my actual thoughts on important matters to someone after just meeting them. I would test them first so the fact that I come off incredibly opinionated is humorous, but false to some extent.

  9. #9
    garbage
    Guest

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Risen View Post
    Secondly, how do you other types perceive INTP's upon first meeting them and first getting to know them?
    Upon first meeting them?

    Quote Originally Posted by Risen View Post
    distant
    First thought that popped in my head when I read the thread title.

    Afterward, though, I very genuinely enjoy the intellectual connection when I get to know them.

    For example, my INTP coworker and I constantly muse over random topics in an almost philosophical nature. He also brings out the "impractical" side in me at times.. I'm usually direct and hardly ever discuss things just for the sake of doing so.

    He's also very messy and disorganized

  10. #10
    Permabanned
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    MBTI
    ISTP
    Enneagram
    9w8
    Posts
    3,187

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by greed View Post

    He's also very messy and disorganized
    You'll learn to love that part of INTP's too :P . We can inject disorder where the presiding state of order has become too stagnant and monotonous. Really, it's a good thing .

Similar Threads

  1. First impression of the poster above you.
    By Lady_X in forum The Fluff Zone
    Replies: 4030
    Last Post: Yesterday, 04:33 PM
  2. ISTJ/INTJ/INTP/ISTP "first impression" questions
    By MDP2525 in forum The Bonfire
    Replies: 86
    Last Post: 10-18-2013, 07:48 AM
  3. Replies: 42
    Last Post: 08-18-2010, 04:14 PM
  4. [INTP] intp-intp first date
    By suttree in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 32
    Last Post: 08-06-2010, 05:15 AM
  5. First Impressions
    By Hate in forum The Bonfire
    Replies: 34
    Last Post: 06-24-2010, 12:47 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO