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    I think people get a first impression that I'm rather quiet. Also the way I carry myself people tend to see me as fairly self-confident, since I usually hold my head up and look people in the eye when I'm talking to them, and have pretty good self-esteem so people usually notice that.I don't think people would label me as an intp at first... I think the main things that people notice first is that I don't talk much, which is usually just because I don't care for "small talk".
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    On first impression, people think I'm a serious, studious sort. LOL
    I'm a silly chatterbox amongst friends and a slacker otherwise.

    Some think I'm stuck up, and that's another epic fail.
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    From what I gather, I come off as aloof, distant, and a little critical. A few people have said things like "I think you hate me!". I think I put out a more judgmental vibe then I mean to. But if I start interacting with people they see I approach most things in a very nonserious way and that I'm generally easy going and humorous, and a total scatter-brain. With friends I can be somewhat gregarious.

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    Classmate: "I don't like Emma... she's too... nehhhrrr."

    So there you have it; I come across as "too nehhhrrr," to some.

    My friends in highschool didn't like me at first because I was too loud. I only wanted to get attention from a crush. My sixth form friends thought I didn't like them because I was too quiet and never approached them in the common room.
    Um, yeah.

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    I've read where an INTP's typically are quiet upon meeting people becuase many people couple quiet types with intelligent types. I'm very guilty of this. I almost never instantly hit it off with people, instead my friendships are built over gradually 'letting them in'. I find this has made the best circle of friends for me. I guess in theory by being quiet and closed off I avoid the attention and efforts of people I don't work well with. To snag people's interest I usually stick to things I'm good at or just enjoy, dumb and brainy jokes (see my sig), playing cards, piano, karaoke, pool. I use these as tools to land first impressions also.
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    On 1st impression people think I dislike them, then with time they get to know I actually dislike them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laintpe View Post
    I can kind of pretend to be social at first.... but give it a few minutes and it crumbles. Shy would be an obvious description, some people have referred to it as "mysterious", but that's only because I'm so quiet. If I don't try to overcome my shyness, they lose interest in trying to get to know me. Some people have told me that they thought I was annoyed by them... but I wasn't at all and in some cases have actually really liked those people.
    Quote Originally Posted by Risen View Post
    I often rely heavily on the "chameleon" trait many intp's have, and mimic the people I'm around to some degree and learn social skills that way. I also have a lot of difficulty in groups of people larger than 3 (including myself).
    Quote Originally Posted by norepinephrine View Post
    Based on feedback I've gotten from people after they've gotten to know me better, I'd say most think I'm a hell of a lot more serious and 'stuffy' than I am.
    Quote Originally Posted by Kollin View Post
    I think people get a first impression that I'm rather quiet.
    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    From what I gather, I come off as aloof, distant, and a little critical. A few people have said things like "I think you hate me!". I think I put out a more judgmental vibe then I mean to. But if I start interacting with people they see I approach most things in a very nonserious way and that I'm generally easy going and humorous, and a total scatter-brain. With friends I can be somewhat gregarious.
    Quote Originally Posted by Willfrey View Post
    I almost never instantly hit it off with people, instead my friendships are built over gradually 'letting them in'.
    All of this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by brilliantwomble View Post
    It depends on several factors really. If I am with a close friend when I meet new people and I haven't heard about them before, then I am usually fairly chatty and most of the time I make a decent first impression. People might think I am a lot more extraverted than I really am. If I am with the same close friend, but meeting someone new that I have heard about before, I usually come off as distant and calculated. I am usually trying to figure out if what I heard about them is true and where they fit into my picture of who I thought they would be. So in those cases I come off cold and distant, usually rather quiet.

    If I meet someone new by myself and I never have heard about them, I am usually quiet, distant, and people probably think I am arrogant and uninterested--whether or not that is the case.

    If I meet someone new by myself and I have heard about them before, I again come of calculated, but more playful. Without someone else I know around me I feel freer to explore things and test people.

    In general I am pretty sure I come off opinionated and give the impression that I am a lot more set in my views that I really am. I tend to take a stance just for the heck of it and those that don't know me miss that. I do come of distant though that is pretty much a given. The part that is funny and yet sad at the same time is that I would never give off my actual thoughts on important matters to someone after just meeting them. I would test them first so the fact that I come off incredibly opinionated is humorous, but false to some extent.
    I like what you said here. This is true to what my experiences with INTPs have been. It is difficult for me to know what to do though and makes me a little uneasy because I almost always feel like I am being tested. And, I wonder what I must do in order to prove that I want the truth and am capable of handling it. I'm sure it varies, but how long does this take? I feel like I can never relax.

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    One of my closest friends is an ENFJ. I would say it took me about a year or so after I met her before I really started opening up to her, but in general I start to open up to people for real after they have shared enough with me that the bit of vunerability I am giving in to is much less than what they have shared. So it is a lot of give and take. The more open others are with me and the more sincere the more likely I am to entrust them with info and the truth. However, one important thing is when I get to know someone and I test them with small bits of who I really am I watch really closely as to how they handle it. If they do well then I might give them more trust, but if they fail, it may be awhile (or never depending on the person) before I entrust them with something else. So at least with me anything personal I share is fair game as a test--so handling personal info sensitivity is important.
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    I and my INTP brother come off as shy and quiet at first. People have also told me that I give off a critical vibe, like I don't like them. This is the single most odd thing, since most of the time I DO like them, and secretly wish that they'd talk to me more often.
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