I I decide not to "ignore" it and that "I should get angry". Criticism: I don't give a fuck, it never affects me (perhaps because I have a too high opinion of myself - I don't know).
yeah, I realized in childhood that I was not getting angry over things as was expected, and would wonder why and think that I should make an effort to "feel it" more so I should respond like a normal human being (i.e. get and stay angry). I was annoyed that I was so easily pacified, if for no other reason than that I felt it gave people less reason to not be assholes.
Originally Posted by FDG
What sometimes gets me going is people that really feel the need to "get a rise" out of me when they see I am not reacting to their provocations.
At that point I marvel at how someone could be so interested in getting little ol' me riled up. It's amusing half the time.
I always meant to tell you this Sunshine, your posts make me smile.
hoarding time and space
A single event can awaken within us a stranger totally unknown to us. To live is to be slowly born.
— Antoine de Saint-Exupery
But when my feelings are truly hurt, I don't yell; I withdraw ... like a little kid.
An idiot can't make me feel bad about myself. I have to value the person before I can value his opinion about my character.
Originally Posted by Priam
Yelling and raging out of frustration doesn't imply that the PERSON is important to me, but rather that the POINT is. Someone doesn't get my VERY IMPORTANT, VERY SIMPLE POINT and that's a major pet peeve. My feelings aren't hurt if they still refuse to get it, only my remaining faith in the intelligence of humankind. Once it becomes obvious that there's nothing I can say to change their minds, I walk away without looking back.
Hehehe the INTP cynicism strikes again! Man I love you guys.
Originally Posted by Chris_in_Orbit
So, lets say, I do challenge your intelligence, show you that you are incompetent in comparison to me, and that you will never be as smart as me. What would you do in this, quite unlikely, case?
I would be in awe and you would earn my undying love and devotion. There is only one other person who can consistently put me in my place in debates. Its awesome.
Originally Posted by bluemonday
Allowing someone else to hurt you impinges on your autonomy. It suggests that you are not in complete control of your environment - that would never do.
Another INTP-ish mentality I think. The ones I know IRL are always saying things like 'No one can MAKE you mad. YOU make you mad'
The idea baffles me since I can whole heartedly say that there are some people who CAN piss me off
And yes, I think that being frustrated with ignorance is much different from having your feelings hurt.
I have a co-worker who is ISFJ, and she is CONTINUALLY hurt by EVERYTHING. I try to offer her some perspective on things, but she seems driven by this constant... need... for being upset. (At least that is how it appears to me, but I may just be insensitive)
Originally Posted by Sunshine
I don't want to be a tin can. And apparently neither do you.