Is it because we help you with the shyness? For example, the quasi-intimate, short-lived, geographically impaired "relationship" I had with an INFJ seemed to have that element. At my best friend's wedding a couple months ago, I was the best man and she was the maid of honor. The day before the wedding I asked if she was going to give a speech the next day, to which she replied "no, they (the two getting married) know how I feel and I don't feel comfortable; but you go ahead and give one if you want." I responded to this by telling her I wouldn't give one either, because I didn't want to make her feel unconfortable for not giving one. Long story short, at the wedding dinner, I really felt compelled to say something, so I whispered in her ear "just come up there with me and we'll make a joint speech; but you don't have to say anything, I'll do all of the talking." Needless to say, when we got up there she also spoke, beautifully I might add; and in all honesty, we blew the doors off the place. We had people both laughing and crying. It was quite an experience. After we sat down, she whispered back "thank you, that's what I need, someone to motivate me like that." It felt great.I've tried several times to give reasons and I wind up feeling too shy.
anyway, is that 'a' type of influence we have?