Thank you for your feedback . I noticed a lot of people think of him or INTJ's in general as douchebags. They might come off distant, but I know there is more there than they'd like to show. I just think they approach things totally different. I wouldn't invest so much of my emotions in someone who I didn't believe in so, I guess it's for a reason. Something I observed with my interaction with INTJ's is that we work well together. I know I base a lot of my decisions on my feelings (which isn't always a good thing) so, having someone like that in your life really makes a big difference in a good way.
I just checked out the intjforums.com & came across this link:
How does an INTJ show they care/love someone? - Page 4 - INTJ Forum
From INTJ members:
"If I flirt like hell with all your friends, but I don't flirt with you, I probably care about you and see them as pawns."
"We talk to you a lot, give you hugs, and joke around you.
of course, if im attracted to someone, im usually pretty cold."