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    Senior Member Hendo Barbarosa's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by WithoutaFace View Post
    I would say respect your time commitments. Don't be flaky, and show genuine interest.
    This is also so important. Every minute past the time when you were supposed to meet one is a minute in a universe of utter chaos, that you have thrown them into. In fact, if you're going to be running late, might as well call or contact to say so, because it could NEVER hurt.

    It kind of sucks too, because I've had enough friends who are also INTJ to realize that sometimes it seems like the INTJ is doing exactly that, being flaky and not showing genuine interest, and then YOU are required to NOT do that by any means. That building of sincere trust even in the face of (seeming) indifference, I've found definitely wins me over to people no matter what, and often builds friendships that I esteem higher almost than blood relatives.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maabus1999 View Post
    Can wall it off and become almost colder until I feel there is a possible return. In some ways it may be a subconscious fear of rejection at some point or being hurt/hurting them emotionally if things don't fall into place. If a person sticks with me and tries to get under the wall, it becomes quiet the opposite but in control...usually. Problems is when an INTJ does show any emotion they can sometimes have trouble expressing it correctly as it is an inferior trait. Of course I may be a bad example as my T is pretty low and once in awhile I test as an INFJ. That is the problem with MBTI, the 50% threshold and explaining it correctly.
    This is very true. I understand much better now from experience. What do you mean by a possible return? Do you mean to see if there is a next time?

    It's such an amazing feeling when an INTJ can express their thoughts/feelings with you. It really is a marathon, but it's worth it!

    I was wondering about the reciprocating part too.

    DigitalMethod: Talk about feelings.
    In the right way.*

    *Not sure what the right way is. Yet.


    ^^I did this & it worked out! He expressed what was on his mind, how he felt. I told him how I felt in return. I been thinking about the next time I see him if it would be appropriate to take it to the next level. I realized that he has been doing all the work (approaching, keeping in touch). So, I want to do my part. Ultimately, I will be who I am & be natural about it, but my mind is racing with ways to approach it. Any tips?
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    Quote Originally Posted by soleil View Post
    This is very true. I understand much better now from experience. What do you mean by a possible return? Do you mean to see if there is a next time?

    It's such an amazing feeling when an INTJ can express their thoughts/feelings with you. It really is a marathon, but it's worth it!

    I was wondering about the reciprocating part too.

    DigitalMethod: Talk about feelings.
    In the right way.*

    *Not sure what the right way is. Yet.


    ^^I did this & it worked out! He expressed what was on his mind, how he felt. I told him how I felt in return. I been thinking about the next time I see him if it would be appropriate to take it to the next level. I realized that he has been doing all the work (approaching, keeping in touch). So, I want to do my part. Ultimately, I will be who I am & be natural about it, but my mind is racing with ways to approach it. Any tips?
    Well I am honestly attracted to the ENFP personality the most from my experience. However, NF's in general all get a good response from me . However, I have also had some issues with ENFP's so I am suspicious of their true intentions my self as they can "bounce". Also their openess and ability to spend quality time engaged that is natural to them can be seen as romantic interest by a lot of types, but after learning that from ENFPs (and E women in general), I just want to make sure I know what their intentions are fully (and that may take a year LOL with my back and forth analysis of scenarios).

    In short, I want to make sure the person cares about who I am, who I really am, and find that to be important to them, and then I might put out some fishing lines...

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    From my experiences, they tend to strain themselves when it comes to showing affection.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Peguy View Post
    From my experiences, they tend to strain themselves when it comes to showing affection.
    If we are not comfortable with you; very, very true.

    If we are, not so much.

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    oh please, edgar is just overflowing with affection and warmth.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maabus1999 View Post
    If we are not comfortable with you; very, very true.

    If we are, not so much.
    Ahhh so she went from being comfortable with me to being uncomfortable. Gotcha!

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    I know an INFJ. She's great. It's a competition all the time, though.

    I really, really, really wouldn't discount the difference between Fi and Fe for when it comes to seeing, showing, and being warmth and affection. Really.

    I don't know why they're different. Instinct, intuition, gut reaction just tells me they are.

    (Especially if you have two Js together both of them--quite naturally--deciding for themselves what is and isn't warm and affectionate.)

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    Oh trust me, the more I learn about MBTI, the more I realise it was largely an issue of misunderstanding between us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laintpe View Post
    oh please, edgar is just overflowing with affection and warmth.
    I am the sweetest vengeance thirsty maniac-nihilist you'll ever come across.

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