[NT] NT Habit

[sakuraba]

Anyone else have a habit of pissing people off when you dont mean to. Sometimes I find it funny. Other times I dont even care that they're upset. I always find that they're overreacting.

 

[01011010]

Yes, people have a habit of projecting emotion onto neutral statements or actions. They don't understand that not everyone feels something about everything they do.

 

[Orangey]

This is why I so rarely share my true opinions these days. Just the other day I offended someone because I jokingly said that I would like to vote for some obscure, ridiculous party like the communist party. Granted, it was probably the "ridiculous" part that did it, but I still think it's true.

 

[Jack Flak]

No, I usually mean to. That's a big diff between ENTP and INTP.

 

[heart]

That's a habit not limited to NTs. I can piss a certain type of person off just walking into the room.

 

[Simplexity]

I was actually just thinking about this today and I realized I used to be the typical, grumpy, harsh, critical, immature NT but I still had a way of leaving people with a favorable opinion of me after they had been around me for a while.

I don't know the insensitivity still bites me in the ass sometimes but I've learned to implement a process of checking for the emotional tones of situations before I speak up. I think it really helps because sometimes like you said people will have strong feelings over things that I think are evident and logically alright to be critical of.

 

[The Ü™]

Perhaps. I have a habit of saying things in an unflattering way because my mind races so quickly.

But sometimes, I want to piss people off for various reasons.

Case in point, I remember back in high school where I called a black person the "N" word just to see what would happen.

 

[Orangey]

That's a habit not limited to NTs. I can piss a certain type of person off just walking into the room.

That's interesting. How do you manage to do that?

 

[disregard]

That's interesting. How do you manage to do that?

Have you seen heart?

 

[Orangey]

Have you seen heart?

No. Is there something particularly vexatious about her appearance?

 

[disregard]

Lol, I was just joking.. a joke.. about how cute she is.

 

[The Ü™]

In Detroit, I'd probably piss off people just by being there. Hell, people in my mother's neighborhood near Downtown Cleveland give me dirty looks.

 

[Orangey]

Lol, I was just joking.. a joke.. about how cute she is.

Lol, I didn't even pick up on that at all .

 

[Simplexity]

Lol, I was just joking.. a joke.. about how cute she is.

Never, I repeat never have any confidence in an NTs ability to pick up on subtlety

 

[Jack Flak]

Or sarcasm.

 

[Edgar]

Anyone else have a habit of pissing people off when you dont mean to. Sometimes I find it funny. Other times I dont even care that they're upset. I always find that they're overreacting.

The only people that I manage to offend without intention or awareness are FJs, and fuck their sensitivities anyway.

 

[Simplexity]

The only people that I manage to offend with intention or awareness are FJs, and fuck their sensitivities anyway.

Fixed.

 

[ajblaise]

Sometimes, if I want to say what I'm thinking but don't want the people I'm with to get offended or take it the wrong way, I'll just make an effort to say it in a very palatable and joking way. And that really can work... but definitely not always...

 

[Simplexity]

Sometimes, if I want to say what I'm thinking but don't want the people I'm with to get offended or take it the wrong way, I'll just make an effort to say it in a very palatable and joking way. And that really can work... but definitely not always...

Yeah... I think I've worn out my welcome with this method. It's something I over utilize. Especially as a defense in arguments or when I'm in the wrong.

 

[Orangey]

Sometimes, if I want to say what I'm thinking but don't want the people I'm with to get offended or take it the wrong way, I'll just make an effort to say it in a very palatable and joking way. And that really can work... but definitely not always...

Definitely not. Some people are so sensitive about certain subjects that to even broach one (especially jokingly) manages to offend them.