Charm is deceitful
And beauty is vain (fleeting?)
But the woman who fears the Lord is too be praised.
I've always thought it could apply to men, too.
I was raised around charming and somewhat unreliable people, so learned an appreciation for the less shiny, but reliable ones. Doesn't mean I don't still enjoy the shiny ones, but I'm just very cautious and watchful for what the shiny might be hiding. Sometimes the shiny really is gold, but not, unfortunately, very often.