Hmm, I don't know if I agree with the situational part or maybe there should be a better word for that. I agree with the flexible part...The individual is very adept at perceiving, establishing, and maintaining personal bonds between people. However, these bonds are often perceived as being situational and flexible rather than static. The individual is inclined to focus on establishing personal bonds with other people in the context of realizing or following perceptions from his base function.
Ok, actually, nevermind. On second thought, maybe it is situational (fickle!). I wish there was a more relational word for it though. I was talking to a scientist Saturday night at a party... I think he was an INTJ... anyway, he was really interesting to me, but I wasn't hoping to build a long term relationship with him. I was happy to talk to him for hours, but when the party ended, I wasn't hoping to carry it forward. I think this surprised him when he asked for my number and I said, "no." A reasonable example of situational, I guess.The person easily creates a sense of closeness and kinship between people by expressing like and acceptance, but these sentiments are situational rather than an expression of permanent feelings. If the person's mood or external situation changes, he or she may "turn off" the feelings instantly, even forgetting whom they had created the feeling of kinship with.
I am fascinated by much and most people (in an intense way), so often they take it the wrong way and think that I want more than just a one-time conversation. I'm not sure this is me being fickle though because I do not understand why they would assume my feelings were permanent in the first place. My interest in them is completely genuine, but I don't like feeling like I owe anything.
I think I am a pretty devoted person though once I decide that I want to commit to someone. I just don't like feeling controlled or obligated either. Yeah, I think there have been times where I can sense the expectations from others, which makes me feel trapped and so I have to pull back. But mostly, I would prefer not to.