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    my mom is an INFJ and my dad is an INTJ.

    its frightening.

    now i cant pinpoint a certain type i do or do not get along with because your type isn't the only thing that defines you as person but in regards to my mother and father: my mom i get along with in a very unspoken way. i know how to compliment her without it being direct, which she seems to like because she has what i call "martyrdom syndrome". otherwise she tends to push me a lot to actually get things finished; it's helpful and then it isn't helpful. i tend to need encouragement not criticism. my dad and i just talk a lot and thats about it haha. we talk about current events and just whatever. but, he actually is my main source of encouragement. he will pinpoint my weaknesses but quickly tell me how to fix it and then point out my strengths and things ive gotten better in.
    "Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress. "

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    Could it be that he was just having a bad day?
    Or have you noticed this as a common occurance?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ByMySword View Post
    For the most part, I have always gotten along with INTJs.

    They're the only ones able to turn my thoughts into a coherent explanation.
    I agree.
    Here's my edit:

    For the most part, I have always gotten along with INFJs.

    They're the only ones able to turn my feelings into a coherent explanation.
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    I get along very well with INTJs; I hang out with 4+ of them regularly.

    And yeah, it's a good point about possible miscommunication online; I find that I put much more weight on body language and tone than actual words in real life...

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    My son is an INTJ and 17. We are very close and understand each other well.
    We have awesome conversations. I am probably easily able to deal with and/or
    overlook his know-it-all times and sarcasm.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gloomy-optimist View Post
    because it's really easy to interpret you guys the "wrong" way...
    True.

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    A good share of my (few) friends are INTJs. I get along with them better than most, although they seriously piss me off some times. It sort of annoys me how they can be shockingly cruel at times, and I think they feel I am sometimes crazy and irrational.
    There are miles to go before I sleep...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Algora J View Post
    I'm a T- and I despise rudeness, mainly because I was taught that diplomacy was the key to winning people over.
    I don't have an opinion on people that are rude, but I do agree it's strategically to other's advantage to be the bare minimum of 'polite'.

    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    Is politeness something that comes naturally to all people? Is it an inborn trait that people can either accept or refuse?
    Some individuals want to please people, but the actual methods of being polite are typically taught at a young age.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 01011010 View Post
    Some individuals want to please people, but the actual methods of being polite are typically taught at a young age.
    I must have missed the memo, then.

    There are certain bare minimums to politeness that everyone has, true. But I'm not sticking around to get beaten with a ruler. Yes, politeness is a part of a strategy, but somebody shouldn't be absolutely despised for not automatically knowing somebody's politeness threshold. It's just a rationalization that lets them be offended.
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    Heh, that's the thing; people aren't exactly always rational, especially when it comes to emotions and relations with other people. A lot of people view rudeness as a lack of respect; that's where the offense comes in.
    So, if someone feels you don't respect them, they might get offended. And if you get defensive, that is, in a way, implying that you don't care about their own stand-point, opinions, emotions, etc...
    It's not really a rationalization on the part of the person; a lot of people don't really pin-point why it actually upsets them.
    Politeness helps avoid confrontation, and humility helps avoid conflict. The absence can be expected to cause some social friction...

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