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    I want to know what you guys value in your romantic relationships. Feel free to answer however you wish.. A list, detailed paragraphs, whatever.

    I'm just curious..

    Thanks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by disregard View Post
    I want to know what you guys value in your romantic relationships. Feel free to answer however you wish.. A list, detailed paragraphs, whatever.

    I'm just curious..

    Thanks.
    top 5 in order of importance:

    honesty/trustworthiness
    faithfulness (kinda the same as the above)
    good hygiene
    humor
    openess


    then in no particular order:
    attentiveness
    passion/romance
    physical attractiveness
    common interests
    theres more but i cant think of them now

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    Great question.

    LOYALTY
    Affection
    Touch
    Passion

    I've found it very, very difficult to find a woman I'm both attracted to physically and has these qualities.
    I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. --- Maya Angelou

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkIceTD View Post
    top 5 in order of importance:

    honesty/trustworthiness
    faithfulness (kinda the same as the above)
    good hygiene
    humor
    openess


    then in no particular order:
    attentiveness
    passion/romance
    physical attractiveness
    common interests
    theres more but i cant think of them now
    Good list!!

    I also am a big hater on arrogance in a relationship. If I'm someone equal and special to you at the same time.. I better be that way ALL the time. No when we're alone it's "I love you, we're awesome, gimme my insulin sweetie.." and when we're around the guys or something it's some lame power struggle in a joke.. "Hey toots go get me a coke because I wanna look cool infront of my cool friends..cool." Or even worse, when a girl says a joke and the guy's all "NO BCUZYOUCOULDNTHURTMEIM LEHPOWERZ!!" It makes for SUCH an unattractive way of being. Like you're so paranoid about being weak that you end up being weak in an entirely different way. no Alpha male persona kthnx.

    From experience, hygiene = a must.

    NO LYING. I know everyone lies.. but seriously, if you don't like fruit, just say so. Don't say you're allergic to ALL FRUIT ALL THE TIME.
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    I value in my relationships (friendships too):

    • Punctuality
    • Being down-to-earth
    • The motivation to discuss and share things with me
    • The desire to work through problems
    • An active lifestyle
    • A respectful demeanor
    • Self-motivation
    • Appreciation for adventure
    • Having their sh*t together (financially, mentally, emotionally)
    • Reliability (as opposed to being disposed to changing their mind last minute)
    • Being "real" (not disposed to embellishing their sentiments)
    • Responsibility
    • Self-discipline
    • Accountability
    Last edited by disregard; 10-20-2008 at 09:15 AM. Reason: added 3 more

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    Awesome list, Dis. I also value dependability. They don't need to be rich.. but they don't need to always take and take and never give back either. I'm a big one on always bringing your share to the table, so that there's never shame when the time comes you fall short and need help.

    I'm also a big one on people who aren't paranoid and scared. The desire to work out problems would help me know that even if we were to argue and disagree, it doesn't mean my potential date and I would need to worry about it all ending so quickly and superficially (of course there ARE dealbreakers..) that we end up paranoid and jealous. It makes for a relaxed, real evironment.. where I can be myself, he can be himself, and I don't need to worry on either fence on holding back.
    Kantgirl: Just say "I'm feminine and I'll punch anyone who says otherwise!"
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    Also, I wanted to add: responsibility, self-discipline, and accountability.

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    For me the openness is a big thing. Spontaneous, fun, etc. After that I would appreciate if she doesn't need to be doing something all the time...

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    Here's my list:
    - Laughter, happiness? ( I am too serious for my age, someone ought to shake me up a bit, in a good way of course.)
    - sincerity (not to the point of the painfully honest or falling into rudeness but don't pretend to have feelings you don't or vice-versa.)
    - mutual support emotionally.(I'll tap you in the back when you're having a bad day, better rub mine too :P)
    - "Growth"= teach me what you know and I'll do the same in return.(What do I bring you?What do you bring me? How am I different now that I know you? What did I learn from you?)
    - Acceptance, appreciate me for who I am without admiring me, don't be blind to my flaws but don't poke at me every ten seconds. I'll do the same for you
    - Affection (Rawr!)
    - Independence and Privacy?(Don't smother me for the love of god, and I won't get in your business 24/7. A couple is not a person, some things should be kept separate or else we fall into co-dependence and are left dumb struck once the relationship ends, sometimes incapable to pick up where we left off. ex: divorces and money problems.)
    Sometimes I feel like I'm "on Mercury"-

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    honesty-i hate being lied to.
    loyalty-i want relationships with people who will stand by me no matter what.
    respect-its a given.
    affection-this doesn't really count as far as friends go, because i dont like being affectionate towards my friends, but affection is really important to me in a romantic relationship.
    good times-lots of laughs and good memories. i don't want anyone who takes life too seriously.
    accepting me for who i am- i can't be changed.
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