have you often felt that, while you're still producing very 'little' result in life , as a result of being generally "lazy" to do the details-process, and also too-much thinking but little to no "real actions" , yet, it's added furthermore by you're being soo "OPEN" to so many possibilities & also people's opinions , that resulted in a furthermore your "indecisive" and "wishy-washy" attitude ?
i know , probably not all INFPs who experienced this.. but just by some threads i've seen in this board, and also MBTI Central's NF forum, i bet there're probably a lot of INFPs who experienced this same frustrating-dilemma!
i've just talked to my dad last night,..and he doesn't seem too happy to see how "little" i've progressed (and that even NOT according to his 'standard' yet! i'm still "nothing" to his eyes!)
after thoroughly analyzing it over & over again last night before i slept, i've figured that "trying to please everyone" and "too-damn scared/afraid of conflict & confrontation" , are probably my two main weaknesses!
and that's because i've figured that the "root problem" is that I am confused as what's really the "rightest" thing to do in this frustrating-world, mainly (and sadly) , i still don't have a STRONG PRINCIPLE of myself, that i can boldy defendit , regardless if it'll make people close to me disagree or dislike/hate me!
i know that my surrounding people seems more to go 'against' me ,
but i sometimes even feel that they're probably the "right" one , not me, since their talks seems rooted in more realisticmanner , instead of just "abstract" talks & meanings like i often did when i'm talking.
heck, my Dad even doesn't care of how my "feelings" is, my "values" is, to him, all is just 'bla bla bla' if at this point of time, i still don't have a big, glimmering career that can make big money (because Money is the most important thing in life, especially when i'll start a family, buy house, buy car, that's what he said).
i'm sorry, i've rambled far too-much..
but yeah, if anybody here can relate, or ever experienced it, please share it.
and most importantly is, for those of you who've experienced this feelings, but also have succesfully battled (or managed) it, please,..i need to know the solution.
probably the bottom-line is: how can i be more firm & have strongest faith in my own's Life principle , without being easily 'swayed' by people's opinions & perspectives ?