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    Default Chameleon facade

    When someone talks to you, or interacts with you any other way...
    1. You start to imitate their demeanor(ex: talk faster, copy accents..)
    2. Your mood immediately shifts to suit the visitor momentarily..
    3. You feel that their words are "penetrating?" and that you can't escape.
    4. You do your best to make them at "ease".
    But with all that accommodation, as soon as they leave you go on straight to your starting point, whatever that was.
    ^^Basically you develop over 15 facades a day that you shed one after the other and we could say that deep down, none of this has actually affected you in any way?You're pretty "hard and unshakable" in there.
    Sometimes I feel like I'm "on Mercury"-

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    What is your point?
    Social interaction is fascinating...
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    I prefer to call it terrifying....
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    so you've discovered our secret
    damn Dwigie - i mean come on !
    and wtf is a Dwigie anyhow ?
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    Quote Originally Posted by mippus View Post
    What is your point?
    Social interaction is fascinating...
    We can change the outer persona very easily, but never change our "insides?"
    Waiting to see if others can relate. I've come across a large number of people who say they can't change who they are (ex: rude people :rolli: who say they can't change the way they behave etc..I think it's not true). Basically some people feel that the way they'll carry themselves is who they are and that they shouldn't change it. The minute they change the way they act around others they think they've changed. I just don't think people can change deep down, no matter how hard they try but they may make efforts and struggle to change.The result is often that the "part" that was supposedly changed has only been temporarily repressed and will eventually resurface or has potential to. To be honest I still feel the same as when I was 4 or 5 deep down. I just behave a bit differently around others, or I don't think it'd be possible for me to maintain any relationships. But that chameleon facade is always on.
    Maybe I should warn beforehand: I don't always make threads to make "points", sometimes I just want to see if others feel, do or think the same. They're actually very much "can you relate?" threads.
    Sometimes I feel like I'm "on Mercury"-

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    Quote Originally Posted by AvereX View Post
    so you've discovered our secret
    damn Dwigie - i mean come on !
    and wtf is a Dwigie anyhow ?
    LOL! "a dwigie" It's a nickname, taken from my real name. My real name is unpronounceable to your everyday English speaker.
    Sometimes I feel like I'm "on Mercury"-

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    Point taken
    It is interesting to see, and I can relate indeed, but that is just plain social interaction. The reason being the adjective you used for people who don't play along ("rude"). The fascinating thing is that we'd rather be lied to if it makes us feel safe or comfortable. Nothing wrong with that, though...
    Truth and honesty are often overrated or even abused when it comes to day to day social life...
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    I don't do any of those things.

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    The "chameleon effect" externally usually gets tied to Fe function use. I used mine extensively throughout my life, which caused lots of problems; internally, I was me, but externally I would flex and accommodate and change to mesh with those around me enough to avoid conflict.

    Mine is usually tied to Ne. I am quick to see points of connection rather than focusing on the differences between beliefs, and I emphasize those in conversation and don't really discuss the dissensions unless I need to... so people might be surprised at times when I suddenly come up with some scathing criticism once I feel comfortable in the relationship after they might have assumed I was completely on their side.

    I definitely do imitate mood and talking style, to mesh with them.
    I also try to put them at ease; I'm trying to give them a sense that I'm open and positively inclined to them, NOT their enemy, and then later I might challenge them.

    It can cause problems because I didn't have a strong sense of "me" for a long time. No instinctual sense, anyway; and so I liked being alone a lot just so I didn't find myself flexing to others.
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    Quote Originally Posted by disregard View Post
    I don't do any of those things.
    You don't adapt to other people when meeting them? Or not to this extent?
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