A short while ago I introduced a friend to the MBTI, pointed her to a few tests online, and lo and behold learned that she is ENFP.
This morning, we'd planned to ride together to a meeting which started at 11:30 AM. She was running late . . . fussing with her appearance, doing her hair and makeup and such in the rearview mirror on the way there (and yes, she was the driver). Gah!
We arrived at the meeting late but miraculously in one piece. On the ride over, I'd mentioned something about how being late is a pet peeve of mine. I like to arrive early so as not to make a scene. All I said was something simple like. . . well, maybe next time if you're running late let me know, so I can leave on time (by myself) and make sure I'm not late.
Well, she took this the wrong way, had hurt feelings, and apparently stewed about it the whole duration of the meeting. When the meeting was over, she curtly told me something to the effect of "let's just not ride to church together any more" with the expectation that I'd be offended or something. I was not offended, and told her so.
My not being offended bothered her, and she took off early (so I had to walk home). To me, the whole thing was STUPID because what's done is done; water off a duck's back. But I have to deal with this person on a regular basis (like tomorrow), and would like some tips on how to appeal to her "feelyness" and to be the apologetic party, if just to make things between us OK.
Any ideas? How do I apologize for something that is not my fault? Just apologize for "hurting her feelings" ? Good grief.