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    Unhappy NF and SP Friendships

    I really would like some input you guys. I have a friend (my only female friend) who happens to be an ESFP. I've known her since I was 8 years old. We are like complete opposites, minus the FP aspect. I've been having an issue with her lately. I asked her to accompany me to a show that I been dying to go to. She said she'd go and I was looking forward for us to go together since I usually go alone. I don't know anyone with my taste in music or anything really for that matter. Anyway, I gave her a month's notice and it's coming up this Monday. Tickets are most likely to sell out and if she plans to go it would be a good idea for her to purchase them now. Well, she hasn't responded to me yet, and it's been a week. I've left her text and voice messages with no response. I really just want to know if she's coming or not. I have a feeling she doesn't want to go because one of her favorite shows "Gossip Girl" will be on and various other reality programs. I really thought it'd be a good gesture for her as a friend to come with me at least one time. I'm pretty upset because I go to the mall to help her pick out clothing/shoes and other things that interests her. I don't shop at malls or desire to go to one, but I go....NO PROBLEM. Shouldn't friends compromise and make the best of things because of friendship??? I know it sucks that I don't know any intuitive friends (I would sell my family down the river for some!!! ). Luckily, I do have guy friends that are receptive and are down to give things a shot and are generally open about things. I sometimes just want to hang and bond with a chick, is that asking for too much?!! :sad:


    How would you react if you were in my shoes? Has anyone experienced this from other types or with people in general? Any feedback would be great!
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    So, wait, are you saying that if you had an intuitive friend, that person would automatically be more considerate?

    There's nothing in the particular story you've laid out to indicate that type difference has much to do with any of it.
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    dude, just tell her she can watch it online the next day. I mean, the internet and tivo exist for a reason. but yeah I agree with Jeffster, I don't think this has to do with type, cuz I've been known to change my mind last minute about things. and I'll go sometimes but I usually don't have a good time.
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    I guess I'm thinking due to our personality differences it could be a problem? Maybe it's asking for too much. It was more of me venting. I just want to know why I can compromise things for her, but she can't with me. I actually accidently pressed submit before I could finish up. I would appreciate an ENFP's input!!
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    I've had friends I'm always compromising my plans for but then they won't for me. So I just began with those people doing what I want, I don't care if they get upset because they did the same thing to me. what goes around comes around.
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    Well, ok thanks. I shouldn't of even said anything, lol. It is what it is.
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    Nothing. I don't think there's anything to say that's why I responded that way. I just wanted to vent. I should of phrased my words differently.
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    Quote Originally Posted by soleil View Post
    Well, ok thanks. I shouldn't of even said anything, lol. It is what it is.
    Nah, your topic still has potential. We could talk about all sorts of crazy things! I've had several NF friendships, and the ones that stayed friendships are great. The ones where we decided to take it further than that all ended badly. So I have to remember that, even though I'm irresistibly sexy, I need to say no to you NF women when you throw yourselves at me, for fear of repeated heart failure.
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    That's a coincidence, I guess..because my best friend is an ESFP and I've asked other INFPs, and NFs too, if they have any friends in the SP category, and I don't usually get positive results, so..how nice
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    Maybe I feel I expect more from her and I think that might be a problem. ENFP's often have things planned out in our heads, even visualizing how things will be. I'm a little disappointed with myself for even asking. I should try not to take things too personally.
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