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    Quote Originally Posted by Neo Genesis View Post
    So I know that there's already a general thread in the Bonfire section, but I'm interested in what angers the NF personas specifically. Also, note that I'm talking about personality/ideological differences, not specific incidences. So...

    1) What makes you angry?

    2) Do you get angry often?

    3) How do you deal with the problem?

    4) How quick are you to resolve this emotion?

    5) When you get angry, are your friends and family generally surprised at the content that makes you so?

    If there are any other questions that you would like to ask, feel free, as long as it remains on topic.
    1) Social injustice, cruelty

    2) I get angry when I make a mistake. I get angry when my memory fails me. I get angry when I accidently hurt myself. I like to think of my anger regarding other people as optional and a choice I consciously make. That keeps the "You made me angry" stuff to a minumum and helps me feel in control of my own emotions.

    3) I recognize that no one can control my feelings but I and then I use whatever tehnique will work to deal with it. I try to avoid quick fixes.

    4) Some issues have taken a long time and are still in process. (This winter I finally released a thirty-three year-old resentment. Yay! Freedom at last.) The day-to-day stuff can be dealt with within an afternoon or so.

    5) No, I think I'm fairly predictable to friends and family.

    A comment: I spend a long time being frightened of my anger. I would stuff it and periodically explode, dumping it indescriminately on anyone in my path. After years of storing bits and pieces when it finally came out it would be huge and unpredictable. Fear of it was most appropriate. Glass broke and things got broken and like that. Worse yet, relationships were damaged in moments.

    I am still cautious when I feel my anger rising and have found that inane old "count to ten" advice to be valuable. I will literally say to my self, "Stop and think, Anja, before you speak." Best advice I ever gave myself!
    "No ray of sunshine is ever lost, but the green which it awakes into existence needs time to sprout, and it is not always granted to the sower to see the harvest. All work that is worth anything is done in faith." - Albert Schweitzer

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    1) people who automatically assume they are right in a subject they know near to nothing about. narrow mindedness i suppose you could say. not taking all possibilities into account

    2) very very rarely

    3) let go. i just take a deep breath and 5 minutes later im fine

    4) ^ 5 minutes at the absolute latest

    5) theyve never seen me really angry
    "Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress. "

    "You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty."

    "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."

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    I don't get angry. I get sad or upset or annoyed, but not angry. (Random, stressful incidents make an exception... ESTJ shadow.)

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    1) What makes you angry?
    Ignorance and indifference.

    2) Do you get angry often?
    Yes, but less as I get older. Some anger is replaced with pity nowadays.

    3) How do you deal with the problem?
    Try and forgive people for just being human.

    4) How quick are you to resolve this emotion?
    Depends, but I never hold grudges.

    5) When you get angry, are your friends and family generally surprised at the content that makes you so?
    Most times, yes.

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    1) What makes you angry?
    Obviously there are many triggers, and different types of anger.

    A) Petty anger - Someone says or does something small that seems irrational to everyone else but I just crack it - like not cleaning the kitchen after you've used it! Farout, not that hard.

    B) Self-defensive anger Mainly when someone undermines my values or who I believe myself to be. As in - How dare you surmise who I am in such a way, you have no idea.

    C) Righteous anger Pretty much the root of my social justice element. There are many wrongs in society that must be righted.

    D) Willful anger I know that I'm right, and I know that you're wrong; so shutup. Also, when someone simply crosses a plan that I've made!!! Annoying.


    2) Do you get angry often?
    No, not really.


    3) How do you deal with the problem?
    Internally boil, or vent. I'm a verbally aggressive kinda guy. haha


    4) How quick are you to resolve this emotion?
    Depends entirely on the circumstance and continuity of the situation which originally triggered my response.


    5) When you get angry, are your friends and family generally surprised at the content that makes you so?
    When it comes to A) and D) I think they've learned, and they know what triggers what.

    But with B) and C) I think its often a case of - I didn't know you felt that way.


    Man, I feel so angry after writing this post

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    I do
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    An unfair fight makes me angry. When people gang up on someone and use more force than is needed to punish them, or when someone particularly strong in an area uses it to squash someone with much less power. I think it is decrepit cowardice beneath a guise of external dominance. If it helps a situation to go after such a person, I will.
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    So I guess it means there is trouble until the robins come
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    I want to be just like my mother, even if she is bat-shit crazy.

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    1) What makes you angry?
    kittens in blenders

    2) Do you get angry often?
    not really, as long as I can avoid seeing kittens in blenders

    3) How do you deal with the problem?
    unplug the blender, kill the person who put the kitten in the blender

    4) How quick are you to resolve this emotion?
    depends on how long it takes the person to die

    5) When you get angry, are your friends and family generally surprised at the content that makes you so?
    no, I hide it all within and listen to linkin park

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    1) What makes you angry? A consistent unwillingness to hear me out, overt intolerance, cruelty(psychological or physical), indifference to the pain of others, being stonewalled(#1)

    2) Do you get angry often?
    Not at all, generally. I think I've been angry once in 15 years with one of my closest friends, and never at all in 20 years with another best friend. Frustrated, yes. Angry, no. I don't really even get that frustrated with other close friends. If I get somewhat annoyed, I just retreat for awhile and then show up again when I'm feeling more balanced.

    3) How do you deal with the problem?By trying to communicate my understanding of the problem, see the other person's side, and come to something of a consensus or mutual understanding/resolution.

    4) How quick are you to resolve this emotion?Depends on the extent of the issue. It takes me a long time to really get angry, so once I'm there, it might take some work.

    5) When you get angry, are your friends and family generally surprised at the content that makes you so? Not at all. They usually wonder what took me so long.
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    1) What makes you angry?
    People who take advantage of people who are weaker than they are.

    2) Do you get angry often?
    Yes

    3) How do you deal with the problem?
    I get away from it if possible. If that's not possible, I stew. Over time, I will say something. But once I've said something, it's impossible for me to shut up about it, so I try not to let it get to that point.

    4) How quick are you to resolve this emotion?
    It's not resolvable. I live with it. I work on it by trying to find the bright side.

    5) When you get angry, are your friends and family generally surprised at the content that makes you so?
    Yes. People don't ever seem to know why I'm angry. Once I explain it, it makes sense. But it's ... as a good friend said to me, "You're always coming up with some weird shit."

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