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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkPiranha View Post
    How kind!
    It was wonderful.

    I'd been feeling neglected and depressed, and I was hiding and sulking, so it was a really good wake-up call.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kyuuei View Post
    Well, they were invented by sunshine.. so I'm convinced they work.

    Also, I always felt nothing was so powerful that a nice hot bath couldn't help soothe it, just a little.
    I forgot about baths. They are yummy too. And they do just take the sting out of whatever is bothering me. But I could take a bath on my own and wouldn't need someone to actually go out of their way to comfort me. But ya! Bath good stuff.
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    I would definitely want someone to cheer me up, comfort me. I don't need advice, I don't particularly need to discuss it, I just want a little kindness sometimes.

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    I'd take advice from a sincere, relatively open-minded hard thinker, otherwise just someone to take me seriously and give me understanding.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SillyGoose View Post
    Okay, it may be just silly to some...but a HUG does wonders for me. If I am truly sad or depressed, a freaking hug is the best
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    I like someone who listens to me and yes hugs are awesome .
    I also need a "slap" so I don't just pamper myself and I can get into action. Basically give me some tough love at first so I can work through the problem and "do" something about it then afterwards gimme a hug. :P(my reward )
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    I need time alone to digest what's going on and probably to cry. If I really trust you, I'll let you hug me, but be prepared for me to cry all over you. Which is why I don't let too many people hug me when I'm upset. It's not that I don't want the intimate gesture, I do; it's that when someone offers me such a thing when I'm upset, my composure crumbles in an embarrassing display of emotional relief.

    Later, I'll want to talk about it. Sometimes I'm looking for a solution. Sometimes I just want to make sure my interpretation of the situation wasn't completely wonky.
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    I really think this depends on the person.

    One of my coworkers returned to work yesterday after the death of his mother. I knew nothing about it because no sent out an email or anything. He was upset no one from work called him to comfort him or send him their condolences. He was said I work with you all 40 hours a week and none of you picked up a phone to call me or email me. He was very upset. My other coworker responded she'd be mortified if coworkers started calling her.

    I guess it's figuring out how the person typically responds in times of lesser crises so you'll have an idea of how they're respond in a major situation. I know I'm the type of person that will seek out a trusted person to talk to. Other people withdraw to digest on their own. If I know that when something happens somebody closes off I let them and offer that when they're ready to communicate I'll be available. Others I just prepare of the onslaught because I know they talk it out.
    Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.
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    talk to best friend briefly (only if it is something absolutely horrible) and then get over it in about 5 minutes lol
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    I appreciate company when I think things aren't going so well. It usually makes me feel better.
    If left alone, I will drown in the negativity.
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