i'm sure someone can mistaken me as an ESFP if the right mix of people in a social situation. i'll say EFP's in general are bubbly. they do it for different purposes but they look similar. as an N, i want to stay true to myself and will hence actively try to just spill out all my bubbly ideas, regardless of what people think. S's act bubbly within society's expectations and possibly sees the norm as people getting along with each other. i'm sure the S may conform a lot more than the N does. the motivations for our bubbliness could be very different.
this is interesting...i've been wondering what observable difference there would be between these two types in a social situation...i'm not aware of anyone in my life that's an esfp...but i know that i don't conform in public...i agree when it's honest and shut up about it if it's not appropriate or if not asked directly but...i would very much state my opinion if i needed to but let it be known that it didn't matter to me if we agreed....i guess because of the live and let live mentality that i subscribe too that perhaps they do not? is that right?
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I have to put on a social mask every time I leave my house. That feeling stays with me in any social situation, but I have a strong desire to fit in socially, perhaps in hopes of finding someone that shares interests. Recently this has been causing a lot of undue mental fatigue and I've been reconsidering my behavior. I don't think I've ever been "bubbly" though.
If you want to be different than you are, that creates a tension. If it's an unchangeable trait, then it's a permanent tension.
In my experience, it's useful to identify whether it's a "should" or a true desire. "So-and-so should do thus-and-such" just means that "someone wants so-and-so to do thus-and-such," so the first step there is to identify who is doing the wanting; if it's an internalization of someone else's voice (such as your grandmother's), then feel free to disregard it.
If it's a true desire, then the first step is to validate it, and then brainstorm how to realize it. If it's a true desire to change to an unattainable trait X, then all you can do (after validating the desire) is shift perspectives; instead of asking how you can be the best X possible, ask how you can be the best you possible as an X-like.
Yup, but I will admit that I have met some pretty bubbly INFPs, it really just depends on the people they are around I guess
I think that's his point....this particular NF is indiscriminately "bubbly". An INFx is unlikely to be that way.
As mentioned, ExFx in general are going to seem outgoing and warm.
Fe-doms especially will aim for a sense of solidarity in a group, which can visibly erase their real preferences for certain individuals, although those preferences are still lurking beneath the surface.
ExFPs tend to enjoy the limelight, so they will try to appeal to the group to gain it, and some may even resort to negative antics if necessary.
"Charlotte sometimes dreams a wall around herself. But it's always with love - So much love it looks like everything else. Charlotte Sometimes - So far away, glass sealed and pretty." - The Cure
When I go out, I'm usually the girl in the middle. I like hanging amidst extreme extroverts and introverts. Depending on who I'm with and what's going on, I'll let myself become the center stage for awhile, but I don't like being the center of attention for long.
As for ENFPs being bubbly. I'm usually more silly than bubbly. Like, I think I generally come off as very serious to people who don't know me. If I get to talking though, I'm usually just very ridiculous. It's not something I show to everyone though, but I'm most comfortable being silly and also not being the total COA.
I love being the COA and often am, but it's more important to me that the conversation stays fun and genuine- the best situations are where we can get an honest debate going or where we are being totally silly and nonsensible- I think ENF's really love improve. I would only act particularly bubbly if that was the role I was playing at, much of the time it feels a bit fake to me. I guess SF's would be more bubbly and ENF's would be happy and silly.
Hmm. Have I been called bubbly? Hmmmm.
I think it depends. I'm friendly and warm towards people, but not quite as freely as the SF's I know. I have limits, and sometimes I'm nice to a point where I can't keep up in a conversation because I sidestep hurting people's feelings so much (when someone else might use that as a sense of humor). But if I'm in a conversation, and I have things to add (which I often do), I don't act too awkward. It helps if you can laugh at yourself.
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I am a 'bubbly' INFP. I don't know how I come across to others, but that's how I percieve myself. I'm always smiling and saying hello to people.
I used to be super quiet and isolated, and I HATED it [although I am an introvert; I need my alone time]. Now, I make lots of effort to reach out to people, and it's really paying off! My motivation is to have a lot of friends and to be a positive, helpful influence on everyone around me. It's good to know that somebody's day was improved because I was there. Additionally, I love being brave enough to go up to people that I don't know; this is usually most fulfilling when I approach new/isolated people. You never know when you'll meet someone interesting!
It took a LOT of work on my confidence to get to this point, however. I used to be afraid to open my mouth unless I had a justified reason for it.
When I tell most people that I'm terribly introverted they think I'm joking... in most situations I'll be as chatty as I need to be for the situation to make the other person feel at ease and so I can fit in to the situation. I don't care about being "accepted" but I don't like that weird awkwardness that my typical INFJ self would set off. I'm a high school teacher, so I've had to force a lot of extroversion out of my unwilling self. It's getting easier, but damn it's exhausting.