Long story short, cheated on ENFJ boy but we're back together and he is so passive-aggressive with his anger. He will never say outright how pissed off he is (well he did once, but he was drunk) but will be mean/rude in a very passive-aggressive way.
Him: what are you doing later tonite?
Me: Not sure...will I see you?
Him: If I'm around. I don't know what I'm doing now.
Why the hell would you ask if you're going to reply with that? Of course I did see him and he acted like everything was fine and we had a good time. The problem is that even though he took me back, I can see that this time he's very cautious about how he acts/what he says so that he doesn't get hurt (which is obviously understandable) but I wish he would just be open about telling me how he feels instead of reacting with passive-aggressive anger.
Is passive-aggressiveness a characteristic of an angry/hurt ENFJ?