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    Very...
    Thank you iwakar.

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    I'm roughly 2+ years into a relationship with an INTP. For me, it's a very nice match.

    ~ His tendency to underexpress emotion provides a feeling of stability and security. Just being around him helps me calm down when I'm upset. It's like going into a quiet, peaceful room where I can rest.
    ~ Underexpression of emotion does not mean lack of feeling. He cares very deeply about a number of things, including our relationship.
    ~ I love the way he uses humor to call attention to my occasional irrationality. It diffuses my inner stress and creates a moment of shared intimacy when I realize that he can read my thoughts.
    ~ He rarely takes things personally. It's difficult to offend him.
    ~ The Ni/Ti combination is so helpful at times. He explains in careful detail what I "just know".
    ~ My flights of fancy amuse rather than annoy or confuse him.

    I know there are some negatives, but at the moment I'm having a hard time coming up with them. Oh, yeah...

    ~ He really doesn't seem to care about social expectations. Sometimes I wish he would.
    ~ I can't always intuit his emotional state, and he doesn't often express it explicitly and in careful detail (as I do). It's not so terrible that he doesn't, but it just means I'm hindered from catering to it (as I'd like to).
    ~ Occasionally it makes me sad for him, to imagine how disconnected he feels from other people. We've talked about this a lot. He doesn't seem to care that he's disconnected, but it does seem a shame from my point of view.

    There are many more positives and negatives, of course, but I tried to limit it to things that seem more generalizable to our mbti types.

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    I've observed two NF-NT relationships - one between my parents, the other me and my ENTJ ex.

    Mum is INTP and Dad INFJ - there seems to really be love there, but Dad gets on Mum's nerves sometimes by being quite distant and grouchy - particularly when she's sick. I guess he doesn't like the lack of control when he wants her to be well. But I've definitely learned a lot watching their relationship, and try to learn from Dad's behaviour how I could change my own and from Mum a rational perspective. Always easier to learn from other people.

    My ex and I really connected due to the whole discussion of ideas thing. We were together for about a year. It was the emotional/rational dynamic which threw us off in the end. He wanted to become a multi-millionaire, and I wanted to go help developing nations. Looking back it was when we shared these goals that things started going down-hill.

    Atm I'm starting to fall for this INTJ at uni.

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    Fife, that seems less emotional/rational and more values based; but that's a comment based on the little information given.

    I dated an INTP for a few months then ran after getting scared of the heat. I didn't have near the confidence I do now, not that I have much now. LOL
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    Hmm, good point. The way we dealt with conflict was the major area which showcased the difference type-wise.

    I dated an INTP for a few months then ran after getting scared of the heat.
    Heat in what sense?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fife View Post
    Heat in what sense?


    I didn't feel I was worth it; didn't know at that time NTs don't let you have that untill they find you worthy. I was young and dumb, still kind of am I think.
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    Hmm, definitely relate to that feeling (and condition!)

    Yargh. Another INTJ mate of mine was trolling me IRL for the past few weeks. I was ignoring it, so he kept going to find my limit. Frustrating, but funny at the same time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fife View Post
    Hmm, definitely relate to that feeling (and condition!)

    Yargh. Another INTJ mate of mine was trolling me IRL for the past few weeks. I was ignoring it, so he kept going to find my limit. Frustrating, but funny at the same time.
    I say kiss him, giggle and watch how uncomfortable he gets.
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    I dated an INTP for a few months then ran after getting scared of the heat. I didn't have near the confidence I do now, not that I have much now. LOL
    This is so true. OMG. Just, yes. INTPs have a secret Fe weapon capable of affection overload. May they use their powers for good instead of evil.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bubbles View Post
    This is so true. OMG. Just, yes. INTPs have a secret Fe weapon capable of affection overload. May they use their powers for good instead of evil.
    Na, let the evil rain baby , two introverts need to spice things up some how

    On that note: I have yet to sleep with a T...
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