I kind of think a women who could be totally objective in telling me when I'm fucking up/being an asshole/being unrealistic in a completely "GZA, you are being an asshole" kind of way would be fantastic, especially if I could say the same to her without it being hugely offensive and personal. I guess thats NTJ in MBTI terms... I also like that in theory at least they wouldn't be needy. My own paradigm is to not really need people and be dependant but rather to have your own focused vision, and someone who is dependant and needy to an extreme would make it feel like babysitting.
I havn't dated much though, most of the girls I've had pseudo-relationships with seemed to be either regular airheads with no real personality (boring!) or some kind of ExFP. As you may have guessed, I didn't really like them much romantically/sexually as I kind of got to know them, so cross those off the list
ENFJ seems kind of ideal. Intense and fiery... really any ENXJ kind of personality is attractive to me.
ENTP's would be great as a fling