[INFJ] You know you're an INFJ when...

[lane777]

To add a step, you come up with the ultimate argument....after you're done with it. The video always plays out so much better in your head.

Better? But then I'm tormented with what I should have said. Worst feeling EVER

 

[Lotr246]

What others might see as play, you see as work

 

[ByMySword]

You're able to see the good qualities in people you hate.

OR another way to say it is

you can dislike someone that you admittedly know is a "good person" or a "nice guy".

 

[gloomy-optimist]

I don't really have that issue. I find it difficult to really dislike anyone, actually, because I see that good in people >.>

 

[ByMySword]

I don't really have that issue. I find it difficult to really dislike anyone, actually, because I see that good in people >.>

People don't ever annoy you?

Wish I had your tolerance.

Edit: Also thats strange, too. INFJs are usually so skeptical of everyone. It would seem like a natural inclination for us to not like people in general. Even if we can see the good in them. lol

 

[gloomy-optimist]

People annoy me at times, sure. But I don't dislike them. I'm generally pretty tolerant
I just don't really get close to people. I tolerate them, and that's about it, unless they attempt to get to know me more. Then we become friends...but we're still not that close.

 

[Silent Stars]

I don't really have that issue. I find it difficult to really dislike anyone, actually, because I see that good in people >.>

Same here. The only person who's ever annoyed me is my little brother when he was younger.

 

[Dwigie]

You're able to see the good qualities in people you hate.

OR another way to say it is

you can dislike someone that you admittedly know is a "good person" or a "nice guy".

same here, and I also see the bad in the people I love.
I do tend to think people are out to get me (enneagram 6w4 if that existed so ya know)

 

[Lotr246]

You can do a lot with a small amount of information, finding the meaning no one else can see. You see the world in a grain of sand.

 

[gloomy-optimist]

Ha, yeah. The worst part is half the time you don't even know that you're doing it :B

 

[StoryOfMyLife]

You think of several 'you know you're an INFJ if...' points to post while at work, and by the time you've come home...this is the only thing you can think of.

 

[ByMySword]

You think of several "You know you're an INFJ when....." points at school, work, or out with friends and by the time you get home you've forgotten them all!!!!

 

[Evi]

People don't ever annoy you?

Wish I had your tolerance.

Edit: Also thats strange, too. INFJs are usually so skeptical of everyone. It would seem like a natural inclination for us to not like people in general. Even if we can see the good in them. lol

People annoy me at times, sure. But I don't dislike them. I'm generally pretty tolerant
I just don't really get close to people. I tolerate them, and that's about it, unless they attempt to get to know me more. Then we become friends...but we're still not that close.

Well, people annoy me... a lot sometimes, I do dislike them and avoid them if I can. I have a bit of a problem with people that are "too happy" Sounds horrible, but I perceive it as being utterly and completely fake, it's irritating when you're in my face with your rainbows and unicorns. (Shudder).

Although I do see the good in people (even the irritating ones) leading to questions from my family about certain friendships.

I don't get close to people either...

 

[StoryOfMyLife]

You think of several "You know you're an INFJ when....." points at school, work, or out with friends and by the time you get home you've forgotten them all!!!!

Ha ha someone else to empathize with, I see!

 

[gloomy-optimist]

You get read a thread titled "You know you're an INFJ if..." and then you actually really think about it at home, work, school....

 

[Siúil a Rúin]

I don't really have that issue. I find it difficult to really dislike anyone, actually, because I see that good in people >.>

People annoy me at times, sure. But I don't dislike them. I'm generally pretty tolerant
I just don't really get close to people. I tolerate them, and that's about it, unless they attempt to get to know me more. Then we become friends...but we're still not that close.

I wonder if these two statements are related. I think they are for me. People whom I see annoying pretty much everyone else, don't bother me at all. I don't know that it is a virtue, but it has to do with the vantage point from which I view people. When someone annoys others or are in conflict in some way, they become interesting to me. I want to understand why they are at odds with other people. There is always cause and effect and we cannot typically "hate what we understand". Letting go of personal assumptions is often the first step towards empathy and understanding. I start to examine the person from their vantage point best I can and continue to build a hypothesis. I feel a continual lack of resolution because I also acknowledge that it is not possible to ever fully understand another person. It is a continual process of analysis and shared experience, even if only through imagination. In one way I join myself to others intimately, but at the same time I am observing them from a safe distance from which it is almost impossible to affect me. These polar opposites of empathy and observation form a core aspect of both my understanding and way of experiencing life. It produces my extremes of joy and pain as well.

 

[LindseyLadybug]

I'm curious. Do you like classical? Whether you do, or not, kind of changes the question, for me at least.

Yes, I enjoy it. It's something I listen to if I need to relax or if I'm driving my cat to the vet. Now, it's not my favorite genre of music but I appreciate it and it's probably my top 3 pick. I think the fact that my floormates despise it so much makes me love it even more. Odd, I know.

 

[Sniffles]

You turn on the classical radio station in the community bathroom so you can have the bathroom all to yourself while you shower...?

Does the radio at work count? I can't think of anything better than that - having to work on something by yourself while listening to Classical music.

I can't concentrate or work fully with the standard shit they usually have on. Although shipping often has Classic rock on, which I enjoy, but I hardly deal with them during my shift.

You think of several 'you know you're an INFJ if...' points to post while at work, and by the time you've come home...this is the only thing you can think of.

Please don't remind me.

 

[Travo7]

Yes, I enjoy it. It's something I listen to if I need to relax or if I'm driving my cat to the vet. Now, it's not my favorite genre of music but I appreciate it and it's probably my top 3 pick. I think the fact that my floormates despise it so much makes me love it even more. Odd, I know.

OK, I can relate to that. Especially the part about being odd

 

[Sniffles]

Well, people annoy me... a lot sometimes, I do dislike them and avoid them if I can. I have a bit of a problem with people that are "too happy" Sounds horrible, but I perceive it as being utterly and completely fake, it's irritating when you're in my face with your rainbows and unicorns. (Shudder).

Yeah you often have to resist the urge to punch those people in the face.

Concerning people in general, I guess my attitude is similar to that of the famous INFJ Fyodr Dostoevsky: I love humanity but hate individuals. And by contrast, I can also hate a particular group but still love a particular individual from that group. Ahhh paradoxes!