Thread: You know you're an INFJ when...
10-08-2010, 01:39 PM #2251Female
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10-09-2010, 09:47 PM #2252
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You know you're INFJ when...
...one of the things you want to do in the morning is to bump this thread only to find out someone already did!
10-10-2010, 04:24 PM #2253
I apologize for the forthcoming massive wall of text. But…
Oh, my! After a marathon thread read, the similarities are so uncanny! Even the specific ones.
Speaking of which, and this may be one far too specific and personal to be something common among INFJs, but I need to know. When I was perhaps 3 or so, I came to believe that I had latent "magical powers." I truly thought that I was going to fully come into them on my 12th birthday. I was so impatient, that each Christmas up to my 6th, I'd ask the mall Santa Claus if he would please convince God to allow me to receive all my magic powers early. I got a lot of these: I thought that I came from a different universe and was sent here to do something widely influential and special. Maybe I was just a really deluded, egocentric kid, or maybe everyone--regardless of type--thinks something like this to some degree, but here's the thing: I still have to beat this belief over the head with a Logic Stick; it's still there, albeit, assuming varying incarnations as I grow older.
I used to think I could read people's minds and communicate with trees. I spent hours in my front yard singing songs for them as well. I thought that when the wind'd blow through their branches, they were applauding my performance. I referred to the Dogwood tree in my front yard as my best friend. To this day, I've never cried so much and for so long as when my parents had to cut it down to make room for an addition to the house. I still feel I have a very strange connection with nature, particularly trees.
I'd always know what we were going to have for dinner that night. For example; "spaghetti" would randomly pop into my head while on my walk home from school. Also, I knew my mother was pregnant with my brother before she told anyone, and before any signs of it were evident. I distinctly remember being 5 years old, clutching her abdomen and exclaiming,"Hi! I can't wait to see you!" and her with a I also believed I communicated with dead people, even though I did not believe in an afterlife. As I've become older, I've tried to find ways to discredit these and other similar things. "Maybe I was told and didn't remember?" "Maybe I saw spaghetti sauce on the counter, made the connection unconsciously, and forget about it?" But I've never been able to come up with any definitive answers, and don't foresee that ever happening. Memories and interpretations of them become warped and dog-eared from handling and re-handling, consequently, diminishing clarity and confidence in truth of them as the years pass, regardless of strength of conviction in present rightness (which, admittedly, is probably a bit warped as well...)
As if I haven’t written too much already...
Do any of you all have a serious issue with reality? It’s not that I don’t understand how unrealistic and crazy these things sound, and in which specific ways they’re illogical, but for some reason, acknowledgment isn’t enough to completely eradicate the belief from my subconscious and translate the recognition of absurdity into the full, assimilated adoption of wholly and explicitly logical “beliefs.” (Yes, logic negates the need for the “belief,” but I hope you know what I mean…) It bleeds discreetly and unwittingly into everything about me, and only in retrospect, analyzing how I’m thinking and why, am I able to realize it for what it is. It’s...just..so..FRUSTRATING! :steam:
I feel like I’m a bunch of complete, and completely different personalities in one person and there’s no basis from which to assert, “this one is me, and that one isn’t because of X, Y, Z.” There’s no reason to value or pick one over any of the others.
Edit: This is probably wrong. The first examples were all during childhood. Any really introverted kid with an active imagination could probably share some of those, or something similar. I think they are too specific, looking at it now. Hmm. I won't delete it. Ya know, in case someone feels the need to blackmail me later or something.
10-10-2010, 10:45 PM #2254
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I used to think I would get kidnapped and go on this magical adventure, like in many movies/books. It was so disappointing when I realized that would never happen.
I used to think every inanimate object was alive, and I felt bad for them when they were broken, and I talked to them, too.
I haven't displayed any psychic powers, I'm not that awesome.
I think I'm the most depressed when my Ti functions. I usually try to ignore logic, but then it comes up and I realize how fucked up life is or how much I fuck my own life up.
Well, everyone has different traits, opposing traits, opposing beliefs, and sometimes you're on one end of the spectrum, and sometimes the other.
10-11-2010, 01:01 PM #2255
I do relate to personifying inanimate objects, but since my best friend growing up was an INTP (and videogames) I learned to effectively use Ti in a way other than pointing out all my fallacies and how crappy life is. It crops up, yes, but only if I find out about a mistake I made after the fact (I am OK with making mistakes at the time if there is time to correct them, and if there isnt I plan ahead to accomodate for what might happen because of the mistake).
Sometimes I 'think' I had a psychic experience, but they are so minor that they can be easily passed off as a coincidence. Such as thinking that someone will come down the stairs just a second before someone does, or someone saying what I was thinking ( Especially with friends! ) or in reverse, me saying something someone else was thinking (I am fairly impulsive, my mind is doesn't usually have a say in what comes out of my mouth.
@Random Ness: I understand the feeling of having 'multiple personalities.' I think its from absorbing personality traits from the people we are around and developing mental skills from situations in our life. I always talk to myself about my 'logic side' and my 'feeling side' and my 'serious side' and my 'goofy side' - they all exist at once, but feel separate, and express themselves depending on the situation. I think it is an enneagram 9 thing, and it really adds to my thought of 'my mind is a world unto its own.'
My memory is also pretty odd. Deja vu is when you recognize something but don't truly remember it, and I sense this quite often and thing that much of the time I -should- be remembering it because there are so many situations where one thing reminds me of another (and that connection may be totally lost on other people because it doesnt take a lot for me to find a connection) This aspect of me enjoys abstract art, and with the addition of Ti, well thought out, surreal Rudy (Ruby?) Goldberg Machines are fascinating.'Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and its better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.' - Marilyn Monroe
This is who I am, escapist, paradise-seeker.
Anthropology Major out of Hamline University. St. Paul, Minnesota.
10-19-2010, 12:14 PM #2256
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I recall what I believe was my first time as councellor to strangers!!. As a 12yr old naive-as-you-like little girl (I was a young 12 too... ribbons in hair and everything) I regularly gave relationship advice to a 19yr old neighbour! SHE LISTENED told her friends then after that, whenever any of the local girls had issues they would come to me.. 'The 12yr old usually found playing with her dolly'
I think some sort of spiritual gate opened up. As from then until now, random complete strangers have always told me their life stories!
11-01-2010, 10:21 AM #2257
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I was the same way when I was a kid. Back then I gave advice relentlessly and always found myself talking to my friends parents about anything, I found I had much more intellectual conversations with them and would easily get bored playing games with my buddies. I can give relationship and a lot of other advice like it's nothing but taking it is another story. I've heard so many stories from so many people at this point, I feel like I can tell what someone's going to tell me before they really do. I think this is the "psychic" ability that Infj's have, as the result of being so intuitively knowlegdable about what people are feeling for so long.
11-14-2010, 04:49 AM #2258
Hi! Im new at the forum and reading this ”You know you're an INFJ when...” thread like crazy. I was intending to read it all and only then write something, but im currently on page 74 and its not even a half of it... But I have some revelations from myself and also some continuation of some thoughts I have read here so far. I have no idea if there is something like this past page 74, but you will understand me why Im posting this!
One thing what I realized is that if I wont stop canceling my efforts on things that are not yet as perfect as I would be wanting to achieve before releasing for others to see and judge – They just wont see the daylight at all!
So there are 5 revelations which are somewhat different and connected at the same time – I hope you like to read much..
#1 of 5
All my time Im living in like a half-dream-and-half-reality. Its hard to connect with everything what is going on around me and that is the reason why I cant really recall some details of what someone told or what really happened at some moments in time except if its something Im really connected to/being enthusiastic about. But the interesting part of it is that if someone tells me what happened there at some moment of time where I also was at place – Im starting to recall some details too.. And even if he tries to tell me something what didnt actually happen – I will be able to tell it if he lies or at least something feels wrong.. So its a daydreaming messing with me.. But the most interesting thing is that my night dreams usually are very vivid and lot of times they even messing with my real memories – its like I cant really remember if something happened for real or in my dream.. I can recall one really good and freaky example:
One time I was talking with one friend who I didnt know really well at that time.. He told me that his grandpa has recently died and that he must go to the funeral to his home country.. I was sitting and showing no surprise at all and said to him: ”Hmm? Didnt you tell me that the last week already?” That was because I was really confident about it, that I remember exactly the situation and words he said about it.. Then he was also surprised.. I mean – how often your only grandpa dies and has the funeral and you must travel outside the country? Then I was a bit confused and started to think if I havent dreamt this at some time...
Actually things like these is happening time by time through my life.. And its freaky that I somehow cant trust some things because I cant tell firmly if some of them are really happened or arent happened yet?
11-14-2010, 04:50 AM #2259
#2 of 5
All my life I cant really experience a boredom. The reason is that further Im moving through my life, more interests I found and more questions keeps finding me. There are many things Im interested which Im enthusiastic about and abilities or knowledge I would like to acquire – and they are so different, in different fields... The truth is I cant get or do everything especially if one day holds ONLY 24h... (I wish there was more or I shouldn't go to sleep and eat... which consumes a lot of useful time) So the only thing is to focus on something that is really important to me. The hardest thing actually is to find what do I really want to do or know... To set the priorities.. Because there are lot of interests I just cant throw away.. So Im jumping from one priority to other all the time and the interesting part is that those priorities changes if I find some inspiration for one of them. If that happens, Im really focused just on that and cannot do pretty much anything else – at least not at good level.. So my abilities and knowledge about things are constantly growing, but just one by one... So if one person only has single biggest interest which he develops through his life – he will grow in that field much faster than me if I had his interest as one of many of mine.. That means I would remain with a feeling that I cant be the best of something anywhere If Im continuing with growing also other interests of mine...
Also if Im choosing one field – I always find more and more questions to be answered and realizing that there are actually many other sub-fields in this field... Truth is that even to smallest field/interest you can think of it is possible to dedicate all your life to....
11-14-2010, 04:51 AM #2260
#3 of 5
Everywhere I go, everything I find – Im just getting more and more new questions I want to answer or at least I have the necessity to do that. So most of the time Im harvesting the information about something, generating new questions in my head, but sometimes its too much that I fell very overwhelmed and cant really focus on the stuff I have to do in my school or work. So there are currently two phases of that –
1.the information harvesting and question generating phase;
2.the processing and conclusion making phase. And this phase happens when I can completely relax and free my mind. Then my head finally somehow becomes clear and starts processing all the information like crazy machine. And then one by one Im getting answers to some random questions which has been asked recently or a long time ago. The answers are falling like from conveyor belt and then the only reasonable thing is to write them down somewhere...
The saddest thing is that these moments does not happen very often.. And currently Im thinking thats because there are not so much times when I can relax.. I hate that since the harvesting time happens mostly – I cant be very productive and efficient to other people in group-works for example. If there was a way to quickly switch between these two modes manually – I would really save some time and be much more efficient to everybody and especially to myself..
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