Yay, Lady Jaye and phoenix! 'sall we can do. Anything else robs us of personal satisfaction.
When I was a kid I was a tomboy. I liked the sense of competition and freedom from the social intricacies of my female peers.
I think when I hit my teen years I was confused for quite awhile about young men's responses to my sometimes rowdiness and an amount of aggression.
Eventually I started to figure out that being anything other than who I am was exhausting. Besides it gets pretty confusing if you're hanging out with your tomboy pals and then the dude you have eyes for walks in the room. You can't exactly transform into something else without your pals looking askance. Heh.
I think INFPs might do this quite a bit in their youth because as I type that one brought back a few uncomfortable memories!
But, in regards to changing one's pattern of interaction, I think that is a useful thing to try at a certain age. Sometimes we are trying on different personas untill we get a good fit. That's all good.
And I hope you can do this unhindered by other's reactions, cuz it's not them, I hope, that you are trying to make the changes for.
All easier said than done. Just like RL!