Sagacious
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The question applies to any type of relationship.
I always assume the worst even if I'm planning for the best. And, in my current relationship, my overthinking has gone into overdrive. It's become problematic for us both (Especially, considering we're both over thinkers.). There's this constant need of reassurance that shouldn't be there. Most of it is all in my head and I'm able to acknowledge that. The problem comes when the thoughts are so aggressive that I cannot let it go until he has given me some reassurance. But, even with reassurance, another interaction leads to more over analysis.
Example: We'll be messaging about something and he's a bit slower to reply or forgets to entirely. In the past, I had little problems with this and I understood why. But, even with this knowledge, my head takes that and turns it into "You screwed up somehow and you have to make it better or else everything will fall apart." this leads to even worse thoughts and irrational interactions with him that cause to stress on his end.
Any advice?
I always assume the worst even if I'm planning for the best. And, in my current relationship, my overthinking has gone into overdrive. It's become problematic for us both (Especially, considering we're both over thinkers.). There's this constant need of reassurance that shouldn't be there. Most of it is all in my head and I'm able to acknowledge that. The problem comes when the thoughts are so aggressive that I cannot let it go until he has given me some reassurance. But, even with reassurance, another interaction leads to more over analysis.
Example: We'll be messaging about something and he's a bit slower to reply or forgets to entirely. In the past, I had little problems with this and I understood why. But, even with this knowledge, my head takes that and turns it into "You screwed up somehow and you have to make it better or else everything will fall apart." this leads to even worse thoughts and irrational interactions with him that cause to stress on his end.
Any advice?